"A Carrot, An Egg, or A Coffee Bean" (this is great, please read)

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by valleyann, May 30, 2006.

  1. valleyann

    valleyann New Member

    A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know
    how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

    Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.

    She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs
    out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

    Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you
    see?".

    "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

    Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.

    The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

    Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.

    The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?".

    Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently.

    The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

    The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

    The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

    "Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

    Think of this:

    Which am I?

    Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

    Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some
    other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

    Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

    When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

    The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
  2. ANNXYZ

    ANNXYZ New Member

    Perfect circumstances rarely ever happen to anyone. Adversity comes along in many forms for most people .
    So much of our challenge is in deciding how we will respond to the obstacles , along with seeing the joys of life that are simple and priceless around us .

    We truly do have to learn to make the best of what we can do and what we have each day .
  3. findmind

    findmind New Member

    It is so nice to read a post like this. I find myself getting so wrapped up in the emotion of the latest "happening" and forgetting to simmer down (like the coffee) and just wait for the hard times to pass.

    Life sends hardships everyone's way; with illness added onto them, its so easy to feel overwhelmed, isn't it?

    Read somewhere that most problems take care of themselves within 6 months; that if we just wait patiently, we would find we aren't feeling the trauma as painfully. How hard it is to do the waiting though!

    I may not elevate myself to another level during an immediate trial, but I do pride myself on knowing that although I can't change the past, I can change how I think about it.

    Good post...thank you so much
    findmind
    [This Message was Edited on 05/31/2006]
  4. cindymindy

    cindymindy New Member

  5. valleyann

    valleyann New Member

    Hey,

    I'm glad you all liked the story, it really touched my heart when I read it, so I thought I'd share it with you all.

    I wish I was a coffee bean...but right now I think I'm more of the egg when it comes to relationships and the carrot when it comes to the disease. The more I get hurt by other people the more I seem to build this wall around myself and harden my heart. The more pain I get with this disease the more soft and fragile I become...sometimes I feel like I might break!

    I liked this story because when I read it made me realize how I handle my obstacles and gave me something to try to strive for...to become the coffee bean.

    God bless you all.
    Valleyann

  6. pepper

    pepper New Member

  7. valleyann

    valleyann New Member

    i'm glad you enjoyed the story and took as much from it as i did. :)

    Valleyann