Am I the only one who crys alot?

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by smithje77, Feb 23, 2006.

  1. smithje77

    smithje77 New Member

    I have been crying most all day today :( Started the day by thanking God that I was able to get out of bed, get to work, for my kids, etc. But then since I met up with my friend at lunch (the most supportive person other than my hubby in my life right now) I've been bawling all day. Then I told my supervisor since I may need to take some time off work to go to a specialist in Rochester, then I told my co-workers (they pick on me for being a "hypocondriac" because they didn't know what was going on and they thought all my ailments were me being too nuts or something) and I've been crying all afternoon. I need to get a grip - it's not all that bad and I'm very lucky!

    -Joy
  2. claudiaw

    claudiaw New Member

    been there, done that ( yesturday as a matter of fact:).
    I think we are all on a rollercoaster of emotion's. At least I am.
    One minute trying to be positive about everything and the next feeling so burnt out and tired of trying to be positive!
    On bad day's I try to remember the good day's and know that "this too shall pass".:)
    I know I'm not much help, but I understand, your'e not alone.
    Hopefully that will help you a little.:)
    Take care, Claudia
  3. spiritsky

    spiritsky Member

    My wife cried 3 or 4 times a week for 10 years. She was always weepy and fragile. Although she was an FMS sufferer it really turned out that here crying was more related to hormones, particularly low estrogen (she's now on biest...triest never really worked well for her).

    It's worth looking into if you havn't done so already. My wife and I often talk about how unnecessary all those years of crying were if she had been guided in the right direction early on.

    Good luck.

  4. angeljoe

    angeljoe New Member

    I get so frustrated because I am limited so much more than before. I love to keep the house neat & tidy. I cry because everything is so hard to do these days. I cry more because of frustration and pain than anything else. I hide it from my hubby and children. I've heard that hypocondriac word often too. I often feel down in the dumps and just can't wait to be alone. My little ones give me the happiest moments of my life. I don't like for them to see me sad.
    Angela
  5. 69mach1

    69mach1 New Member

    i got a jobe a few years back..just trying to financially stay afloat...waitng for ssdi to get approved...i would be sitting at my desk tearing up...leave at luch time for an hour and cry ..leave work get into my car to go home and cry...i was ver very depressed..felt like crap going through a horrible divorce not child support for 3 years and having surgeries..having fm/cfs...

    i had to quit my job, it was through a temp agency...iw was an ecellent worker..but mentally beat...not by the employer...i couldn't stand having these people call and get nasty with me because their escrow officer was busy..truly they were...

    i called the temp agency and told them i had to go off on disability...you know what the title company sent me flowers that day to my house...i couldn't beleive it...the said from all of your friends from fideltiy title....

    i had some woman their that were looking for jobs for me on the outside and referred me to a broker...anyways...i was a great worker but i could not take antying more at the time....

    maybe you need a little time off from work..
    jodie
  6. justlooking

    justlooking New Member

    that when I get the "crying" feeling I can bypass days of it if I watch a movie to make me cry it all out. Once I get it all out I don't have the sudden urges to cry at everything. I still have moments where I tear up but I can control it better now and I rarely have breakdowns when someone looks at me wrong or says something insensitive. For me its a big improvement! I used to feel like a basketcase.

    But you aren't alone!

    JL

    BTW for me it was also worse when I worked because I had to be the strong one (unfortunate part of being the boss) and I felt my life was out of control. The pressure of working and raising a family plus being sick is almost too much for anyone and will certainly add to ones emotional state. [This Message was Edited on 02/23/2006]
  7. MamaR

    MamaR New Member

    Hope that you are feeling better!

    How odd....I come on here tonight and post about needing to cry... and can't seem to get started... and you have been crying all day!

    We are both in a fix...huh?

    I have been where you was today! It is SO VERY FRUSTRATING when people don't understand how we feel... and we can't even explain it all to them.

    You just feel SO misunderstood!

    It is so bad...but it will get better!!

    Hang in there sweetie...........Mari
  8. LdyM

    LdyM New Member

    Every day for me Joy.

    While driving to a routine dental appointment just yesterday, I was praying that I wouldn't start crying while I was there. When he says "How are you?", for example.

    Love, **LdyM
  9. Yucca13

    Yucca13 Member

    I cry frequently. More on some days than others. Sometimes I attribute it to the moon cycle, overexertion, stress or that I've always been a bit melancholy.

    As far as the hypochondriac business - no one that hasn't experienced constant, chronic pain will never fully understand. Most people seem to want to do a lot of judging but no one can measure someone else's pain.

    Hang in there and try not to let them get to you.
    Hugs,
    Val
  10. Sheila1366

    Sheila1366 New Member

    Have you ever gotten to the point that tears just won't come anymore?
  11. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    I don't know how old you are. But there are times in a woman's life when the hormones make us cry more. That whole ten years prior to menopause was it for me and most of my friends. We would cry at anything and everything.

    I think a good cry is often good medicine too.

    Big Hugs. You are NOT a hyperchondriac. Look at me, if I had not been proactive and DH the "anxious" type, who flapped, I may not be here today.

    Pays to go with your gut feelings dear. Smiley face for you from me. Just make sure you use those soft tissues so you don't raw up your nose. And go ahead bawl.

    Love Anne C
  12. Chloe-xx

    Chloe-xx New Member

    I cry constantly, my partner thinks Im hormonal and Im afraid that my friends also think im a hypocondriac. But I am niether, I just find it difficult to get past my feelings of depression.
  13. greatgran

    greatgran Member

    I cry a lot and it isn't hormones done been there, and this crying is so different like I have lost me..

    I try to be positive and pretend I am ok or will be one day..
    I am thankful for what I have and can do but there is such an empty feeling inside me..I haven't had a real laugh in so long..but do I have real cries.

    Today I was unloading the dishwasher and for no reason started crying, thinking about growing older, my grandchildren are not interested in me anymore cause I am no fun, can't cook and have them over like I use to they seldom visit..I know my husband gets sick of me..Can't go and do things with him..Most of all I don't even know me anymore and wonder will I always feel this way..No friends, no one really understands..Guess this is my pity party day but looks like we have reasons to cry..

    Just feel stuck and no way around this so have to accept it and do the best we can and if that means crying then cry..

    Prayers,
    greatgran
  14. Hippo

    Hippo New Member

    I have very limited mobility and I have three difficult kids. My husband divorced me because of the illness then tried to pretend in court papers that I was fine so that he wouldn't have to pay support. He also pretends our kids are fine, so I struggle alone. I am too weak to seek out a support system. You're not alone.

    Hippo
  15. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    i NEEDED TO SEND A BIG HUG.

    lOVE aNNE c
  16. cinnveet

    cinnveet New Member

    When the boss tells me I have done something wrong, that I know in my heart that I feel it was the right thing to doo, I try to explain my reasons for why I did what I did, The Boss will say to me "Dont challange me as I am your boss!" So now when he confronts me I dont say a word back to him and instead the tears will run down my face. When I got my review done he wrote down "Cynthia wears her heart on her sleve and needs to learn how to control her emotions."
    He can be so mean!
    I fully understand about crying. But people that dont understand our condition just think we are weak, or emotionaly recks.
    So from me to you, I pass you a tissue. Cindy
  17. patches25

    patches25 New Member

    The pain centers for chronic pain are in the same places that we have emotions from our brain. Since these overlap we cry a lot. There was a wonderful article on this site some time ago that explained that. I will look for it and bump it up. E.
  18. Bambi

    Bambi New Member

    since I was in Kindergarten! I cry when I'm happy, sad, hurt, up, down and all around! It doesn't mean I'm depressed or anything, it just sometimes feels good and other times I just do it because I have to. I only hate it when I'm angry at someone and can't avoid it because it gives the other person that power, they think.

    Many of us are sensitive to our illnesses, to sad stories, to happy moments..it can run the gamet of emotions. It's part of being human and just so we don't make a habit of it in front of the world too much..it doesn't hurt anyone. It SHOWS we're human..and sometimes I think a little more so than some others. I also cry if I hurt someone else unintentionally. THAT I really HATE!

    So don't let it bother you. If it becomes a bother REALLY, go talk to someone about it. But if it doesn't too much and you aren't depressed, cry on! Hugs, Bambi