To stress about! DHs mom lives a mile from us. His sis and her fam are in dallas. Every year they make the trek here for mothers day. His mom fixes a huge meal. The rest of us clean up. That shouldnt be a problem...but its me were talking about here. They do NOT GET that I cant stand at the sink for an hour. Ive tried explaining but gave up. DH tried explaining. And I have grown kids who want to come here and cook for me. MIL suggested they do it at her house. They dont want to do that. And now shes fixing breakfast that she wants us at as well. This is an issue every stinkin holiday. I quit going to the family reunion they host at xmas time in dallas. At least 50 people in a small house at what is already a stressful time! I had to stop. So we are the flexible ones having dinner here saturday and her dinner on sunday. I begged her to let us take everyone out to eat. No clean up. Not happening. Well I cant sit for hours and if I could stand doing dishes I wouldnt be paying my DD to do them. Do we EVER get through to people? Does anyone else have this issue?