I've been reading all these posts about trazadone and anti-depressants...Dr.'s have been putting me on these for several years and I finally said, "No! For me, the benefits are minimal and the side-effects aren't worth it." Xanax helps me sleep and I don't feel groggy the next day. When I take an anti-D. and I do get cozy w/ my husband...I get "to the cliff and I can't jump off!" (if you know what I mean) It may sound selfish, but I figure there are so few things that really feel good, so I don't want to eliminate that one! I'm so happy to find this site...I have over a year of info and venting built up. Also reading other's experience helps me understand some of the whacky things I've been going thru....such as the sweating and freezing. I attributed all of it to perimenopause. Taking FEMhrt has helped a bunch...but I still drive my co-workers crazy with the temp. at work. I'm going to continue reading & posting & replying!