I picked out the candle because it is my son's first birthday today! Anyway..I am trying to get my family and friends to understand what I am going through. I spent so long hiding my pain that I guess they think it's not that bad, but to me it is. Are there any books or websites for family of FM sufferers? Thank you all for all of your answers and support. I can't even tell you how much it has meant to me. Wish I could thank you all individually, but I don't have enough time.