I have asked myself many times whether my complaints about doctors and their treatment of me during this 8 month long crisis are valid. This was an important question and view point for me to figure out because the relationships I have had with doctors and their comments and advice and even treatments have played such a huge part in this unprecedented, life changing and scary event and time of my life. Besides being in constant pain and feeling that every part of my body inside and out can't be trusted, I have lost my job, had enormous financial loss and much emotional and psychological stress for me and my wife and children. And to think that just 8 months ago..none of this was present. Not only has this unexplained illness created all this pain and stress, but it has also forced me to have to go on countless visits to doctors offcies, hospitals and testing clinics with everything from MRI's to dozens of vein searching blood tests and electric shock tests and intestinal probes, etc. To have to do all these things under "normal" feeling times would be a strain...but to have to clean up and buck up and try to be social and go through all this while feeling at times like I was going to die, just made this an even greater challenge and has honestly taken a lot of courageous drive. So, when you encounter a doctor who loses his patience with you in your little 15 minute allowance of evaluation time and who acts rushed when you hit the crisis business management end-of-session time, it is another weight to bear on your already stressed mind, body and heart. Add on doctors who actually get mad at you and or too often keep referring to "psychological" reasons for your complaints and these visits often become extremely unpleasant and even more stressful for you to go to. You stress out just thinking about going to them! Again, is it my pain that is making me subjectively exaggerate my perceptions here? Am I reading things into these visits and the doctors comments that simply aren't there? Am I not being sympathetic enough to a frustrated, over booked doctor's point of view? Is it unreasonable and cry-babyish of me to think that these tightly booked doctors have no clue or enough sympathy as to the whole amount of stress and pain I am going through and to the enormity of the stress when you combine the financial losses that go with it? And that they should understand and be more sympathetic to us whose lifes in many ways "truly are" being devastated in many ways? Is it unreasonable and just plain wrong of me to think that Doctors are the only professional group that is allowed to speak to me ( a 50+ year old man ) in a condescending way that is identical to being chastised by a angry principle in an elementary school? If my car mechanic or plumber or electrician or attorney or any other highly trained technician ever talked to me the way half these doctors did...I would fire them on the spot! So, why do we allow doctors to talk to us this way? And that 15 minute factory assembly line office visit which I pay $40 in co-pays for...is it unreasonable for me to think that waiting 30 to 45 minutes to get in to sit for another 10 to 15 minutes is just not right? And then to have the rushed doctor prevent me from talking the first 5 mintues of the visit with "let me check you vitals. Take off your shirt please... take a deep breath...hold it. Give me your arm...etc." Then eventually they will say " Okay, tell me how things are going." Being so rushed and apprehensive about the fact that I have such a short time and that the doctor will probably get irritated if I just tell him the same depressing truth...I always get kind of discumbobulated and forget to tell him half of what I was intending. And several times in my confusion I have misdescribed things...for example, saying the pain was a certain level when it might be higher at other times...or that certain medicine worked but forgetting to say that it didn't work very well or long or it had side effects that were unpleasant. That rushed feeling screws up so much. And there are huge white elephants in the room that you are not allowed to discuss ( I have been stopped or met with complete silence or a quick change of subject ) when I bring up the fact that these other major areas of my life are making dealing with my illness even more challenging and difficult..ie. loss of job, income, growing debt,personal relationship strain due to illness, family losing patience, empathy and also feeling stress from these other areas. I think maybe "once" was I allowed to mention this with a kind word of sympathy being mentioned. I am fully aware that doctors aren't therapists. And my one sentence of mentioning these other areas is not trying to turn them into therapists. But they react with a "how dare you waste my precious time" with problems that are not strictly medical. How dare you act like a human being under extreme stress and bring up something that isn't strictly medical. So you just don't...but these other huge white elephants besides your actual illness are just stomping all over you all day and night the minute you walk out of that doctors office. I have decided that mentioning these things in postings here and elsewhere is absolutely valid. That my view is not just born out of objectivity distorting pain. That doctors ( seriously, the majority of them ) in this country have an extreme ego distortion and rushed-time-for-patient problem. This profession across the board clearly talks to their patients in a condescending and insulting way that we would never tolerate from any other profession. Why do we tolerate this? It is time it is acknowledged and it is time that it stop. My worst case involved a new PC who in 5 minutes of looking at my hospital records on his lap-top cockily said " I know what your problem is...Depression!" He wouldn't even discuss anything else and rushed me out to get anti-depressants for the first time in my life. With my second and last visit to him he exploded when he found out I didn't get these. I told him I felt that I needed more time and explanation to over come my apprehensions about getting on these and to fully accept depression as the major cause of my newly acquired illness. He literally put his chair right in front of me...shook his finger in my face and angrily blasted me saying " Doctors don't want to treat people like you...who come in complaining of mostly just pain...and who probably go on the computer and think they have cancer with every little one." You will be seeing doctors forever because they don't agree with you and they don't want to treat patients like you" (I'm not exaggerating this story one bit. It's too important to not do this.) I didn't argue with him at all. Kept silent, finished the apppointment. Dropped him the second I walked out of his office. Couldn't believe what I had just been subjected too. Later another PC had me get some MRI's...found a torn rotator cuff in the shoulder I told this yelling doctor I had pain in. Had a camera endoscopy for the pain I was complaining about in my stomach area and they found 25 areas of inflammation, two beginning ulcers and damage to my illium. I am now being tested for beginning Crohns disease. And on and on. But according to this first PC who yelled at me and told me it was all depression, I didn't have these clinically proven injuries. "This" is the kind of treatment and attitude I am talking about with so many doctors today. Is the nation-wide feeling of frustration,resentment, anger and disappointment with doctors and their arrogance valid? Is it so wide spread that we could call this a crisis? A crisis in confidence and unprofessional behavior? Egos out of control? I truly belive it is. And the more we talk about it. Struggle with and clarify this subject so that when the times come to debate and report this in the national media...our point of view will be rational and be backed up with logic and many facts and evidence..so that these doctors will be forced to deal with the "truth" of this national crisis of confidence and change their ways...and not argue out of it or dilute this or make most people feel that this is just a few bad apples who are hurting and blaming doctors. It isn't this at all. It just took having to see doctors more than once every year or two for a check up for me to find this out. And to have an illness as debilitating and devastating as the one I now have.