Busyknitter Pam

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Rene, Apr 11, 2009.

  1. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi Pam, how is everything? I will check back to see if you respond. My mom passed away in Jan. We have a lot to catch up on.!

    Rene
  2. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    I was so happy to go on here and see your name. I am so very sorry about your Mom passing. I hope you know what a wonderful daughter you where to her, you took such wonderful care of her.

    Things have been more than crazy with us. Alexis has been living with us, we have not been to court but I am her third party guardian as far as school and raising her.

    Alan has been living here to for a while. He is still having bad luck. He has been back and broke up with Andrea at least 2 more times since I last talked to you. She is still being as hard to get along with as always.

    Draven is growing like a weed. We did get to see him for a while on Easter. She makes it hard. After they broke up the last time she wanted to come by and get a few things that Draven had left here after Alan left for work and I told him I did not want her here. This was the day he broke up with her. She is holding that agaist me.

    Alexis is growing so fast. She is reading on a 2nd grade level and is so smart. We really have to watch what we say and even spell. I spelled a "naughty" word to Bill on the phone the other day. She said it. She was in the hospital for five days last month. She had broncolitis, ear infection, and than pneumonia. I stayed with her the whole time. Since I kept after them and it did get to that stage, she fianally got cleared up and even her throat is doing better.

    Alexis insisits on calling me Mom or Mommy. I go over a couple times a month at school and help out and the kids will say is that your Mom or grandma. She says "I don't have a Mom so she is my Mommy" It breaks my heart. She cheered when Alan told her him and Andrea broke up for good. It has came out that there where times when Andrea was mean to Alexis.

    Andy is jobless. He had a good job but lost it. He did something and they let him go. I am not sure of all of the details.

    Bill is still driving a truck. I am so thankful for him.

    I have not heard from my brother in many months. I have heard that he has a new girl friend and has stopped drinking. The last time I really talked to him was after he called and yelled about me calling his xwife. This was after I was told that he had another brain tumor and had 18 months to live.

    Again I am so very sorry to hear about your Mom. Did your brothers ever come around? Please let me know how thing are with you. I have really missed "talking" to you.

    God bless; Pam
  3. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi how are you? Sounds like you have your hands full still. I hope Alan is helping you. I had the feeding tube put in my mom on Fri as she was losing so much weight and she would take for ever to feed. She still wanted to eat and would say "thirsty thirsty".

    Makes me mad as the dr wouldn't do it as she didnt lose enough weight in his eyes. He did agree (she was 68 pds) and 2 days later she was dead. I was with her like always that day during noon hour and went back that evening. Stayed about 45 min as she was going to sleep so I fluffed her pillows and put her house shoes on and left.

    2 am the nurse called and goes "your mom is gone" Not even very nice. I didn't even know what she was talking about. I told her to call the ambulance but she said she is not breahting and no CPR. I didn't go to the NH. I absolutly could NOT see her dead.

    I felt bad because I was with her and what kind of a daughter doesn't know her mom is dying?!
    I called the brother in HI and the one here's ex girlfreind. They didn't come but they sure
    want there money. Im going through probate and it is a mess and we aren't gonna get hardly anything.

    I am handleing it better then I thought I would. I have been getting depressed the last week. She was my whole life. I guess not seeing her body is kinda a way to be in denial too and I am realizing she is not coming back. She had been gone for yrs.

    That was awful about Alexis being in the hospital. She must have been really bad.

    How is your health??

    Snuggles and I went to a assisted living to visit. I won't go in her NH ever and everytime I see someone really sick and looks like my mom I cry. I really want to go to nh Cause they need the visit the most but if I gonna get sad I better not.

    Well it was great to hear from you! I sure hope things turn around for the kids.

    Take care,
    rene
  4. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    I am so sorry about your mother. She is in a better place. I know how much it hurts and you miss her. I still miss Daddy and Momma. She has been gone for 10 years. A day does not go by that I do not think of her and Daddy. Alexis never met Momma but she still brings up "Hoppie". A couple of months she wrote a song about him. She came in and woke me up and sang it to me. It is so precious. Later on it doesn't hurt as much but you still miss them.

    Please do not feel bad that you did not know she was dieing. It is not easy to tell some times. With Daddy he was talking and I even talked him into ordering lunch. He had a breathing spell and came out of it. They came in to do a xray and we had to leave the room. The guys brought me up something to eat and I set in the waiting room to eat. I went back to his room and he was staring off into space and breathing funny. He was almost gone.

    Your mother knows how much you love her and you took so wonderful care of her. She may not have always acted like it but she did. She loves you very much too. She is in a better place. I know you miss her. Bill told me one time ofter cried and said I wanted Daddy back. "He is free of pain now, would you rather him be here and in such pain" He was right.

    I have thought many times that I could have did more for Daddy. I wish that I had gotten him away from Bud some how.

    It is a shame your brothers did not come when she passed away. They sound like my brother, wanting only what they think they have coming to them. Bud still blames me for him loosing the car. They have their greedy little hands out.

    My health is not the greatest. My fibro is flared up. I went to the Dr. today and I have a viral infection. I need to go to a specialist about the bone spur in my right knee.

    How is your health? You have been thru so much. I hope you can some how get some rest. I hope things go quickly with the probate.

    I am so glad that we got back in contact.

    Take care;
    Pam
  5. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi how are you? I had a bad virus too in March for 2 weeks. How is Bill? Is he gone often?

    Thank you for the kind words. I remember that about your dad. He seemed to be ok. I do think of my mom every few hours everyday. I was so shocked when the NH called.

    I still think I am in some kind of denial. I have her ashes. I sometimes sleep in her houseshoes (thy're like boots) she died in that I gave her for Christmas as I put them on her feet right before I went home. She liked sleeping in them.

    Its kinda weired I don't have much of a life as she was pretty much all my life. I did go to the mall for about 45 min and that was neat! I also went into Boarders book store across the street from me for the first time the other day.

    You'll have to put in a picture of the grandkids sometime. That was sweet of Alexis to sing you a song.

    How isyour weather out there? We are going to be 90 tomorrow which is 15 degrees above normal for us. We usually have pretty steady weather around here.

    Well I better get to bed.
    Take care,
    Rene



  6. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    Bill seems to be gone alot. More than I like but it does pay the bills. Things have picked up there for a while his work had cut by 30%. Alexis does not like her Papa being gone so much.

    When she was in the hospital she would cry she wanted her Papa. He made them send him thru so he could come to the hospital. There was one day they where running a test on her and she kept screaming for Papa. He was due there I was afraid he was going to come to the door and break it down. They had the ward locked and when you came up you got on the phone and they let you in. If he had came up to the door at the time she was yelling there would have been a hole the shape of him. There was one time she refused to let them do anyting to her until her Papa and Daddy got back in the room. I had to call Bill on the phone and tell him to get back upstairs.

    I do understand how you feel about not having a life. After Daddy passed away I was lost. I had been so busy with Daddy and than he was gone and I had all kinds of time. I also understand about the shoes I have a pen that Daddy always used and I keep it close. You are in denial it still seems hard to believe. I went by a golf courst Friday looked over and swore I saw my Daddy. It does get a little easier as time goes by.

    I am glad that you are getting out a little. It helps. It still takes time.

    We celebrated Andy's 30th birthday today. We are really giving him a hard time of it. Alexis was excited and could not wait for him to get here. She helped me bake his cake.

    I need to get into be. I have to get up and get Alexis off to school tomorrow. Take care and I am thinking of you.

    God bless; Pam

  7. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi Pam how are you? Its been really hot but we will be back in the low 70s by tomorrow like we should be. Sounds like Andy had a good birthday. Remember when 30 was old!? I felt so old when I turned 30.

    Poor Alexis that was probably tramatizing to be in the hospital. Is she going on anu field trips or doing any kind of recitals at school?

    The probate paralegal who I saw in late March did not do anything yet! She was to send a 30 notice to my brothers so if they object on me handling the estate and then we go to the judge.

    I couldn't get mad at the paralegal for not sending it as I have paid her. She said she will do it. I was expecting to go to court that is why I called her and she didn't even make an appointment with the judge that takes 30 days to get in.

    That is good at least Bills job sounds pretty secure. We have such a high unemployment rate here.

    Did you hear about that sunday school teacher killing that Sandra? That is a couple of hours from here. Just awful. I think its awful to about that guy killing the elderly at the nursing home. That is the worst thing I ever heard of.

    I am going to take Snuggles to the assisted living in the next few days when it cools off. They really enjoyed it when we came.

    Well takecare,

    Rene
  8. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    I am sorry it took me so long to get back. Things have been crazy around here. Alexis was out of school on friday so we went and had chinesse for lunch and than went and saw the Hannah Montana movie. It was a very nice time. We really enjoyed it.

    How are things going with your Mom's estate? It always takes so long to get those things taken care of. Daddy had not estate but it took until just a couple of weeks ago for me to get Link Credit Union to guit sending me bills and request for payments. I had to turn them over to the Attorney Generals Office to get it done.

    I hear about the murder of that little girl, it made sick to my stomach. Here a lady was at a drive thru and a man walked up to her window with a two year old in his arms. She rolled down her window thinking he needed help, he pulled a gun and stole around $600 he some how got a hold of her business card and told her he now had her address and if she called the police he would come and kill her. There are so many horrible things going on.

    My sons are driving me nuts. They neither one have jobs at present but they can always mangage to go out and party. I am fed up with it.

    I hope things are going well with you. It has been warm here too. I need to get in bed I am suppose to go voulunteer at the school tomorrow.

    Alexis has graduation on the 24 of May and on May 5 they are going to the zoo.

    Take care; Pam
  9. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    Hi how are things. I hope you are ok.
  10. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    Yep it took this long to get rid of that one creditor. Now mail from TDS (phone service in our area) keeps sending mail in his name making him all kind of offers. I just do what my Momma did after my grandma died. She kept getting an ambulance bill for her and she finally sent them her forwarding address. The address of the cemetary where she was buried. They left her alone after that.

    I have not seen or talked to Andrea since a while before they broke up this last time. She tries to make it hard on Alan getting Draven but it is getting better. She thinks she can tell him who can be around Draven yet she can have any one she wants around him. She got an apartment that the government is paying for yet she can aford a laptop, 2 digital cameras, high speed internet, and cable, and pay off one of her parents cars so she can have it. Yet she is now only working parttime. I can not figure out where she is getting the money. I sent a thing to food stamp fraud because she kept getting all of their food stamps (Alan, her and the kids) and than she was getting over $300 living at home with her parents in a household where 4 of 5 adults worked full time.

    I am going over to school to voulunteer tomorrow and than Tuesday is the field trip. May is a busy month.

    Do you think that your brothers will protest your being exceutor? Maybe they will realize that if they do it will take that much longer to get thiers. They sure wern't there to help you.

    How is you doggy? I hope he is feeling better. My cat got out last week and got in a fight and hurt his leg. He thinks he is still a young cat.

    I am going to watch Desperate Housewives and go to bed. I hope that things are well with you.

    God bless; Pam
  11. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi Pam how are you and your cat? That was good your mom but the forward address to the cemetary. Its like gezzzz what do they want. My mom had excellant credit and they know that had only 2 credit cards for over 10 yrs and I tell them she lived on only $35 a month and the still called.

    Snuggles my moms dog who is a very small white and red pekingese isn't doing so good. I took him to the vet 4 times in 6 days! They kept saying its his anal glad so I took him to a hospital (I had a free coupon) he spent a half hour with us. The the girl came in and said all the tests to do would be $700!!! I told her I can't do that and she totally understood and said do all you can for him even if its somewhere else.

    I haVE spent that already since aug. SO I went back to the other vet and they did an xray and he has disc disease so he is on meds for pain.

    How did your field trip go? I bet Alexis is so proud to have you volunteering and going on trips with her.

    Sounds like Andrea was getting off pretty good. Heck I don't even have high speed internet. Good you let the food stamps know.

    I don't think my brothers will protest. I sure am stress over the probate which we should go to court very soon and SNuggles was a lot of stress to very upsetting.

    What do you think you'll do for mothers day?

    Take care,
    Rene
  12. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    I am sorry to hear about Snuggles. We do get attached to our pets don't we? They seem to always be there for us.

    I feel so bad for a young man that I have known ever since my boys where in school . Him and his wife where on the field trip with their daughter. They planned to go up to the hospital to see his dad after the trip. They had been told the night before that he was close to death. He made it thru the night but they got a call while at the zoo that they needed to get to the hospital. His wife said that when they where there the night before that they changed his morphine drip from 5 to 20. I have not heard anything as of yet. This kid is a wonderful kid he married a friend of mines daughter. He lost his brother about 10 years ago in a car wreck on the way to school.

    We did have a nice time on the field trip. I am still sore. We went to the dolphin show and I had to climb a whole bunch of steps. It was a good show. Alexis had a good time and laid agaist me and went to sleep on the way home.

    She does like me coming over to school. The only thing she does not want me to leave. I have had lunch with her a quite a few times. She is off tomorrow so we are going to go see her old preschool teacher and do a couple of other things.

    Your right Andrea is living high on the hog. I do not understand where she gets it all.

    Draven is getting so big. Alexis is so crazy about him. He loves her to. It is a shame that they are not togather more.

    I can understand your stress with the probate. I hope that it will be over soon for you.

    Hi from Alexis. She wanted to help me type so that last sentence was from her.

    I need to get off of here and start talking her into going to bed. Ha Ha.
  13. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi Pam, tell Alexis hi from me too! Wow that sounds like a fun field trip with the dolphins. That was nice of you to take her to see her old preschool teacher. I remember she really was fond of her.

    Found out Snuggles has disc disease so he is on meds. I have to keep him still so he doesn't do much damage. I have been thinking of puting him to sleep if he doesn't improve. I don't kow how i'm gonna do that. He is the last of my mom and family.

    My airconditioning went out too again so I had to pay 100.00 for a diagnostic and they said it will be 300.00 more and the $100 doesn't go towards it and they need my car for two days!! I don't know what to do oh well!

    How is your friend doing what ended up happening? Did he make in time for the hospital?

    Well did you get some nice things for mothers day or go out?

    Happy Mothers day! Your kids better spoil you today!

    TAKE CARE,
    RENE





  14. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    I had a very nice Mother's Day. Bill took Alexis out on Saturday shopping and they got me roses and a reordable card. She said "I love you Mommy" on it. He said that she would pick up roses say that one has a brown spot or not pink enough as he said alot of love went into it. The boys made me dinner and Alan watched Draven so he was here also.

    Andrea pulled her normal. Alan took Draven home and even made her dinner. He came home and she called later and said that Draven was sick and having troblule breathing to get him back. The boy was fine when he was here and even in bed asleep when Alan left.

    He is actually wanting to get back togather with her. He says she has changed. he thought that the other two times also. It will really upset Alexis.

    I will tell her you said hi. She is so sweet. It does not seem like she should be about ready to graduate kindergarten.

    My friend's father actually held on until yesterday. He is at peaced and in not pain. I know it is hard for the family.

    I am sorry to hear about Snuggles. Hopefully the medience will help.

    These mechanics getting you going and coming.

    I need to get off here and run Bill up to his semi so he can start his week.

    God bless; Pam
  15. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    I ran Bill up to his semi and got a few things done. I wanted to tell you I thought of you yesterday as it was the first Mother's Day without your Mother. I know it was hard for you. I never understood that until I lost my Momma. After my grandmother passed away I wanted Mother's Day to be special. Momma told me she didn't want to do anything that year. At the time it hurt me because I still had my mother. The first Mother's Day after Momma passed away I felt the same way. I said a little prayer yesterday. I was thinking of you.

    Draven threw up all over every thing last night and they could hear him breathing clear in the next room. Today Alan said he was doing alot better. He came home and was home for a while and she text Alan that he had thrown up again and was running a fever. He was doing so much better while Alan was there. So off again Alan went.

    He got home a few minutes after Alexis did from school. She told him "you told me you where going to be a better Dad but so far you haven't been a very good one." This came out of the mouth of a five year old.

    I need to get off of here. Take care.

    Pam

  16. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi Pam how are you? Sounds like you had a nice mothers day even though its hard too for you. Thanks for thinking of me. I did feel like I don't have a mom on that day even though I actually on all the other days that my mom is with me. My birthday in March wasn't fun either but I guess it gets easier!

    Draven is still getting sick a lot? What did Alan say when Alexis made that coment?

    Snuggles is doing better as can happen with meds and rest. I took him out to a garage sale in the country as this family was selling there daughers stuff (i was with their daughter when she died at the NH). Their other daugher has cancer too. It was a nice time I just broght a pillow and laid snuggles on it.

    I bought a couch for $70 that I as so excited about. I had met this girl at my apts. She was with a dog and she said this was my moms dog and I go "yea this was my moms dog cause my mom died" and she goes "my mom just died".

    Michelle is really nice and boy its sad for her too as her mom and her flew to Arizona as the grandma died and then Michelle and her mom(age 61) come back here and in two weeks Michelle had to pull the plug on her own mom! Her mom went that fast. She had copd.

    Anyway I am buying her moms couch for 70. I am happy its an Ethan Alan which is super duper expensive and its in fantastic shap and boy do I need a couch.

    Well those people invited me to come out to the garage sale again tomorrow I like to go but its gonna be almost 100 so it depends on how hot it gets!

    Well take care!
    Rene



  17. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi Pam how are you? Sounds like you had a nice mothers day even though its hard too for you. Thanks for thinking of me. I did feel like I don't have a mom on that day even though I actually on all the other days that my mom is with me. My birthday in March wasn't fun either but I guess it gets easier!

    Draven is still getting sick a lot? What did Alan say when Alexis made that coment?

    Snuggles is doing better as can happen with meds and rest. I took him out to a garage sale in the country as this family was selling there daughers stuff (i was with their daughter when she died at the NH). Their other daugher has cancer too. It was a nice time I just broght a pillow and laid snuggles on it.

    I bought a couch for $70 that I as so excited about. I had met this girl at my apts. She was with a dog and she said this was my moms dog and I go "yea this was my moms dog cause my mom died" and she goes "my mom just died".

    Michelle is really nice and boy its sad for her too as her mom and her flew to Arizona as the grandma died and then Michelle and her mom(age 61) come back here and in two weeks Michelle had to pull the plug on her own mom! Her mom went that fast. She had copd.

    Anyway I am buying her moms couch for 70. I am happy its an Ethan Alan which is super duper expensive and its in fantastic shap and boy do I need a couch.

    Well those people invited me to come out to the garage sale again tomorrow I like to go but its gonna be almost 100 so it depends on how hot it gets!

    Well take care!
    Rene



  18. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi Pam how are you? Sounds like you had a nice mothers day even though its hard too for you. Thanks for thinking of me. I did feel like I don't have a mom on that day even though I actually on all the other days that my mom is with me. My birthday in March wasn't fun either but I guess it gets easier!

    Draven is still getting sick a lot? What did Alan say when Alexis made that coment?

    Snuggles is doing better as can happen with meds and rest. I took him out to a garage sale in the country as this family was selling there daughers stuff (i was with their daughter when she died at the NH). Their other daugher has cancer too. It was a nice time I just broght a pillow and laid snuggles on it.

    I bought a couch for $70 that I as so excited about. I had met this girl at my apts. She was with a dog and she said this was my moms dog and I go "yea this was my moms dog cause my mom died" and she goes "my mom just died".

    Michelle is really nice and boy its sad for her too as her mom and her flew to Arizona as the grandma died and then Michelle and her mom(age 61) come back here and in two weeks Michelle had to pull the plug on her own mom! Her mom went that fast. She had copd.

    Anyway I am buying her moms couch for 70. I am happy its an Ethan Alan which is super duper expensive and its in fantastic shap and boy do I need a couch.

    Well those people invited me to come out to the garage sale again tomorrow I like to go but its gonna be almost 100 so it depends on how hot it gets!

    Well take care!
    Rene



  19. Busyknitter2

    Busyknitter2 New Member

    I am sorry that it has taken me so long to get back. Your couch sounds really niced. Enjoy it. Where you able to go back to the yard sale?

    I could tell by the look on Alan's face when Alexis said what she did that it hurt. I mentioned it the other day and he said that it will hurt him and opened his eyes. We will see. He stayed at Andrea's Sunday night.

    Alexis spent Saturday night at Andrea's to spend time with her brother. Alan was there. We picked her up and she was not feeling good. She was having tobule breathing again. I gave her a breathing treatment and she fell asleep and sleep for over two hours. I gave her another treatment before she went to bed. On Monday morning I called the doctor and they got her right in. Her oxygen level was ok (I gave her a treatment this morning). The did a strep test and it came back negative. The doctor said it was viral. She has to take treatments for two days and some medience. Her tonsils where really swollen up, the doctor said that if they where swollen and not bothering her they would be left alone. If they start bothering her they will have to come out. I was able to take her to school.

    She was upset when I told her she had to stay home. Her birthday is in July and the teacher is letting summer birthdays bring in a snack. She was taking hers yesterday. I am glad that it worked out that she was able to go and take her snack.

    How is Snuggles doing? How are you. I have a million things to do so need to get busy.

    God bless; Pam
  20. Rene

    Rene New Member

    Hi Pam, how are you and how is Alexis? Glad she got to do her little birthday snack. I have been busy too. Whats new with Andrea and Alan?

    Got my purple chenelle couch! Its so nice. I went to CHloes awards at the Luthern High and they had a pot luck and she got Valedictorian! She is going to Berkley University In Aug.

    We also went out to lunch on Sat.

    A lady from the nursing home who I new from a while as her 52 yr old son is in the NH called me as her sons in the hospital.. His platelits went to 4! I went and saw him in the hospital and it was so hard I almost cried.

    All the smell of a hospital and those beeping sounds of machiens reminded me of my mom being ill. She was in the same hospital on the same floor. I went to see Russell twice. over the weekend. I wanted his mom to go home and rest.

    One of my moms and my favorite aid had left the NH and now works at the hospital and she hugged me and said she was sorry for the loss of my mom and she cried when she heard.

    My mom would always go patricia patricia over again and again cause she wanted her.

    Snuggles is doing better but not a 100% I didn't make it to the garage sale again I was to tired and it was to hot!

    That paralegal is making me mad I can't go into it now. She hasn't even filied with the court to start probate and the court needs 30 days. Last month she said we'd go this month and in march she said we'd go in April!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Well hope everything is well with you!
    Take care,
    Rene