Can I have a hug today?

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by EllenComstock, Mar 5, 2006.

  1. EllenComstock

    EllenComstock New Member

    Hi, Everyone:

    As my title says, I could really use a hug today! I have a brother I am guardian of who lives in a group home. Long story, but have not been real happy with the owner of Jim's group home for some time.

    Last night Don (the group home owner) and I had a heated phone conversation. Just out of the blue Don said that I don't know my brother. I have known my brother for 49 years and Don has only known him for five! There's been a lot happening that I won't go into here, but we did end up our conversation on a more congenial tone.

    There aren't many group homes where I live and several of them aren't very nice. I just found out the name of a woman who operates three group homes. So I called her last night and she has an opening in one of her group homes. Unfortunately, it is the one the farthest away-an hour from our home. But I know I can't be choosy at this point. If it's a nice group home, then I should take it. Unfortunately, she said there are two other people interested, too.

    So I have to cross my fingers this will work out. My husband is on jury duty right now. I am hoping that this won't interfere with him driving me tomorrow. I have a hard time driving with the FMS.

    I am doing my deep breathing and telling myself that somehow things will work out. I love Jim, but I wish sometimes that I could just think of myself and my husband.

    I also need to find a ear, nose and throat specialist that takes Medicaid as Jim has had a cough and sore throat for several months. I took him to the clinic here (only place that will take Medicaid) and they diagnosed him with bronchitis. I kind of questioned that diagnosis, but Jim took the medication and it didn't really help.

    Sorry this is so long. I guess I just needed to vent a little. Thanks for reading this.

    Ellen
  2. Cindyvr

    Cindyvr New Member

    Sending you hugs and prayers....
    Things will work out.
    Cindy
  3. 1horse

    1horse New Member

    you may have a bunch of hugs today.. hang in there... it will work out...
  4. windblade

    windblade Active Member

    Sending you ((hugs)).

    I'm sorry things are so rough. I hope it works out with your brother!

    Blessings to you and your family,
    Judy
  5. Rosiebud

    Rosiebud New Member

    sometimes it's all we can do to keep ourselves together never mind take responsibility for someone else.

    I'm sorry you and your brother are in this situation and I hope you can get it resolved.

    Big hugs.

    love
    Rosie
  6. poodlemommy

    poodlemommy New Member

    hi Ellen. Is your brother able to understand his circumstances and voice his concerns. Does he want to move? Will a move upset him or do think he will be glad to get out of where he is? Just a thought?
    poodlemum
  7. EllenComstock

    EllenComstock New Member

    so much for responding and sending kind thoughts my way. Last fall I was trying to get him into a nursing home, but they decided he had too many mental problems. Guess I will have to wait until he is a senior citizen before trying again. Anyway, Jim knew I was doing this and wasn't upset about it. For the most part, he seems to trust my judgement and I think would cooperate with a move.

    He is happier at this group home than he was, although he would prefer to have his own home and not live in a group home. He oftens is bored and lonely. I try to visit a couple of times a month and take him out if he is up to it. I also call him on the phone. Of course, it is not possible for him to live on his own. He is not able to live on his own and doesn't have the financial resources to maintain a home. He sometimes tells me he doesn't need me to be his guardian and he wants to handle his own money. If only this was possible...

    Ellen
  8. fivesue

    fivesue New Member

    I keep my finger crossed with you that all works out well and that your brother can also get well!

    Please take care of yourself and keep us informed.

    Love,
    Sue
  9. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    for caring so much about your brother. Hope the new home works out. Yes, I often feel ALL group and nursing homes should have cameras so p[eople can check in, like a webcam.
    Love Anne C
  10. Aeronsmom

    Aeronsmom New Member

    Here's a BIG..but Gentle cyber hug for you.
    Ann
  11. Crispangel66

    Crispangel66 New Member

    Sending hugs and prayers your way!

    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    Love,Pamela
  12. EllenComstock

    EllenComstock New Member

    It was so nice to come into work this morning and find more responses to my post!

    I am feeling better today-less stressed than yesterday. I had some relaxation time last night and slept good last night-something I really needed. So I feel positive about my meeting today. If it works out, great. If not, then it just wasn't meant to be.

    Thanks again for the support.

    Ellen
  13. skierchik

    skierchik New Member

    Your brother is sooo lucky to have such a loving and concerned sister. I will send lots of happy, loving thoughts your way. Sometimes, life just has a way of taking care of these things, so whatever happens will probably work out to be the best. Hang in there and keep breathing!!

    Lots of love and hugs to you,

    skierchik
  14. NyroFan

    NyroFan New Member

    Ellen:
    A nice warm hug coming to you via NyroFan.
    Hugs,
    NyroFan
  15. MamaR

    MamaR New Member

    So glad that you are feeling better today.

    Another soft hug for today....Mari
  16. JLH

    JLH New Member

    Here's a bug hug from me ..... along with a prayer that everything will work out.


    ((((((Hugs))))))
    Janet
  17. ksp56

    ksp56 Member

    ((((((((((((((((((((((all for you, Ellen)))))))))))))))))))

    I am praying all will work out for you and your brother...

    Keep us posted.

    Hugs,

    Kim
  18. kgangel

    kgangel New Member

    Ellen your story makes me so sad. I am so sorry for all you are going through.

    I sure will send HUGS your way and God Bless you.

    I will pray that things work out for you and your brother.


    I know things will work out.

    Hugs, Hugs Hugs,
    kgangel
    [This Message was Edited on 03/07/2006]
  19. ritatheresa

    ritatheresa New Member

    I hope you feel better, Ritatheresa