can anyone tell me why it is that non overweight people can eat foods that evoke memories of family, comfort, closeness and that food has become fashionable? meatloaf w/mashed potatos, mac and cheez, stews, turkey and fixins...pie, lemon bars, devils food...you get the picture...diners and their big portions of 'home style' comfort foods are the rage and this was going on way before the economy officially went south so the quetion is, why is comfort food an excepted and well regarded choice for society and why is it when depressed people turn to 'comfort food' its regarded as a crime? we grow up in cultures where food=closeness, love and way of speaking when words arent enough. my mother didnt allow us to celebrate birthdays, no cake, no parties, no gifts...it was another way of her pretending me and sister didnt exist. i dont know what happened to me as a tiny tiny child but its only in the last few weeks its come to hit me hard that i've hoarded food since early childhood, i've stolen food when visiting people's homes as a child, even now i cringe if i have to eat in public...my entire life seems to revolve around menus and implementing them and if implremented, finding time after all the long days, tension, loneliness in making the setting right to eat them...and as i become sicker and in more pain, even those so called 'comfort foods' are not comforting. why is it when we do use food for comfort, its an unacceptable form of self nurturing? is it any sicker than other body obsessions as slice/dice plastic surgery for eternal youth or six pack abs or the guilt cycle for eating most foods? Is self nurturing with comfort feeding worse than using antidepressants and anti anxiety meds?