Concerned about my husband

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Frogsmoocher, Sep 10, 2003.

  1. Frogsmoocher

    Frogsmoocher New Member

    Hello, everyone. I'm new here, and I'm just looking for info. About 3 years ago, my husband started having problems with fatigue. He was in a high-stress job at the time, and so we chalked it up to that. But after switching jobs, it didn't get better.

    Over the past couple of years, I've become quite the night-owl, and so instead of going to bed at the same time, I started getting to bed a few hours after him. That's when I noticed the constant twitching. I have sleep disorders, myself (PLMS, RLS) and so I mentioned that he should probably be seen by a doctor. He had a sleep study done, and they diagnosed him with the same things I have. He's been on medication (Sinemet) for about 18 months, but he seems to be getting worse and worse. He's in the military, and they're reluctant to put him on anything potentially addictive. Certain medications will disqualify him for military service. Right now, he's planning on leaving the Navy, anyway, so he doesn't really care about that.

    He's tired all the time, can't concentrate, and complains about feeling hot. The hot feeling is worse at night. It seems like he doesn't have enough symptoms to fall into the CFS category.... or does he? This fatigue is really putting a damper on our family life, and he feels terrible about it. He gets up at 5:30 to go to work, and gets home at about 5pm. Most days, he takes a nap for an hour to an hour-and-a-half after getting home, and then goes to bed around 10-10:30. I've suggested trying to get to bed earlier, but then he wakes up way too early and can't get back to sleep. He doesn't complain of pain or anything.

    I'm just so confused and worried. Does anyone here have any ideas or opinions?


  2. ksp56

    ksp56 Member

    I don't have CFSD, but it sounds like something to be checked out. Maybe start with a rheumatologist, or another specialist? It can take months, and even years for some to finally get an official diagnosis. Was he in the Gulf War by any chance? Keep on searching and if one doctor says 'I don't know', move on to another who works to find out what it is! If you type in Chronic fatigue in the search box, you will find information.

    Hope you find some help!


  3. cakli1

    cakli1 New Member

    Bloodwork may help also. I have CFS and it came with other problems. He really should see a rheumatologist.
  4. nktigger99

    nktigger99 New Member


    I understand how getting the health care he needs is hard. I am military dependent. I can not imagion being in the military and having the fatigue that I have. You can not call in sick when you are in the military.

    How is his supervisor with dealing with this? Does he have to Deploye?

    I am so sorry he has to deal with this. My husband has been showing signs of CFS but he won't go to the dr. Maybe when he gets out in about 18 months we can find out what is going on.

    IF you need to talk please feel free to E-mail me...I am always willing to help out a fellow military spouse.

  5. Shirl

    Shirl New Member

    Hi Tangie, welcome to the board. Your husband really needs a doctor to give him a good check up, its possible it could be CFS, but you just never know for sure these days.

    I have Fibromyalgia, not CFS but I also had that hot feeling at nightime, and also the restlessness when I did sleep, never woke up feeling refreshed. I also had RLS (Restless Leg Syndrome), I did eliminate that one, and some of the hot flushing during the night, and now get deep sleep, and most of the time I am sleeping 'quietly' now.

    I take ZMA (zinc, magnesium and vitamin B-6), its a supplement and it works wonderful for all the above. You can go to the 'Store' link here and type it in the search box and read more about it.

    I take two capsules before bed, men take three. Have him ask the doctor about it.

    I sure hope he gets some relief soon, that is so miserable when your sleep is distrubed, it makes the fatigue worst during the day.

    Let us know how he is doing, and what he finds out about his health.

    Again, welcome to the board, and be sure to stop in and keep us updated on him.

    Shalom, Shirl