Coping- for GoDaleJr

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Pinky, Nov 5, 2002.

  1. Pinky

    Pinky New Member

    Thank-you for your reply. I am currently on Ultram for pain and Ambien for sleep and a whole slew of Supplements. I am working part-time but as far as thinking positive thoughts that is a whole lot more difficult. All my problems seemed to start about 2 years ago when the last of my 2 children left home.And we moved to a different part of the state. 2 major changes at one time. My husband and I worked continuously for a whole month renovating our new home. I was exhausted and came down with pneumonia. Then I was having severe vertigo and could not get out of bed. I went to dr. after dr. and no one could help me. My neurologist kept changing my seizure meds. which was just making it worse. In the mean time my husband got sick with severe pain and internal bleeding. It ended up being a kidney stone but they treated him for a prostate infection which has now caused him permanent damage from the meds. he was on.We are in the midle of a lawsuit. He is not able to work as much and with me having FM and CFS I can't work as well either. Not to mention we were fighting a child support issue with my husbands ex-wife and he was traveling back and forth to Michigan to show up in court. We have only a few family members living here in Florida the rest are back home in Michiogan and friends are few. My husband and I are both sick and tired with no real positive thoughts and/or support. I cry alot, wish I could find a support group nearby. Thanks for listening!
    Debbie
  2. Pinky

    Pinky New Member

    Thank-you for your reply. I am currently on Ultram for pain and Ambien for sleep and a whole slew of Supplements. I am working part-time but as far as thinking positive thoughts that is a whole lot more difficult. All my problems seemed to start about 2 years ago when the last of my 2 children left home.And we moved to a different part of the state. 2 major changes at one time. My husband and I worked continuously for a whole month renovating our new home. I was exhausted and came down with pneumonia. Then I was having severe vertigo and could not get out of bed. I went to dr. after dr. and no one could help me. My neurologist kept changing my seizure meds. which was just making it worse. In the mean time my husband got sick with severe pain and internal bleeding. It ended up being a kidney stone but they treated him for a prostate infection which has now caused him permanent damage from the meds. he was on.We are in the midle of a lawsuit. He is not able to work as much and with me having FM and CFS I can't work as well either. Not to mention we were fighting a child support issue with my husbands ex-wife and he was traveling back and forth to Michigan to show up in court. We have only a few family members living here in Florida the rest are back home in Michiogan and friends are few. My husband and I are both sick and tired with no real positive thoughts and/or support. I cry alot, wish I could find a support group nearby. Thanks for listening!
    Debbie
  3. GoDaleJr

    GoDaleJr New Member

    If you can, get an anti-depressant from your doctor. I take Lexapro, but I don't take it daily, only when I need it. Like I should go take one now cuz I just cried after reading vickie's post about her mother dying.
    Our depression is situational, as my psychiatrist would say. It is to be expected for us to be depressed when we have to deal with chronic pain. Since there is no end in sight for us it is really upsetting.
    Today is the first day of the rest of my life, I have decided. I am not going to complain about what I have anymore or what I don't have.
    I am starting a support group for women in my area. Not just to talk about our aches and pains, but to talk about life. I have also started writing a few books. I have always kept a journal and I have actually been extremely exhausted these past few days because of all the typing and writing I have been doing. It also increased my appetite which has been gone since I had my wisdom teeth out two months ago. Writing is my outlet. It feels so good afterwards to get all that out of my head. Even typing on here is theraputic. And I encourage you to keep doing it if it makes you feel better. I even encourage people to email me if they want. I used to ride my bicycle for hours to clear my head. Now that I don't do that anymore, I take solice in other ways. i do admit my carpal tunnel syndrome is coming back, but it is almost a good pain, i hate to say. I guess it is like that word...uh I can't remember the word, but it is when you do something and get a result you weren't expecting. Like the invention of Viagra. I saw a show on TV about that. They were trying to invent a pill to cure something and they ended up with viagra-- it cures something else.
    As for your positive thoughts..there must be something. Any little thing. You and your husband are both alive and you have each other. When was the last time you both hugged each other? I'd do anything for a hug from anyone. I don't have anyone here except my dog and horse. And my dog isn't the lovey dovey type, neither is my horse. She will bite me as if to say, "get over it and give me a carrot!"
    And maybe keeping a positive journal would be a good idea. Things you are thankful for. I know my list got less and less, but now I can open my mind and find more things to add to it. I keep a notebook on my bed and one on my desk and a pad on the coffee table. I am constantly writing things down I hear people say on TV or thoughts I have.
    I am not a motivational speaker by any means. But I do care about people, and I am a giving person. And I do listen well. So if you need to "talk" I am here. My email address is on my profile.
    Take care of yourself and your husband. You are good people and you deserve some happiness.
    ~Gina