After fourteen years of trying to get my mother to understand the limitations and changes that fibro has made in my life, I seemed to be getting somewhere with her. This took place after two events. One was that she developed osteoporosis and she was able to grasp non-stop pain. The second awakening for her was that a new neighbor was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and while my mother flatly refused to read any literature I gave her on fibro, she accepted such from her neighbor and read up on fibro. Her neighbor is on disability and suddenly my mother was telling me that I should apply for it too. That I was as deserving as her neighbor was. In the past year though, my mother has been watching this neighbor and reporting back to me (with some sort of strange pleasure, I think) that this neighbor gets up everyday at the crack of dawn, does a couple of hours of gardening, then goes inside, cleans up and emerges to get into her car and "run the roads" until just before her husband comes in. I frankly am at a loss as to what to think. I know my mom is probably back to thinking that fibro is, in her words," a crock." I want to think that this neighbor is possibly in a remission of sorts. But does anyone think that there are patients who may be given a dx. of fibro because a doctor simply does not know, or want to go the extra mile to do sufficient testing to find out what is really going on? This is not the only case I have known of, where someone was told they had fibro, yet they were able to continue their lives with little to absolutely no changes whatsoever. And this went on for years, no slowing down at all. I don't want to sound judgemental and I have no idea what goes on with folks behind closed doors. But I do wonder if fibro could be a diagnosis used by some doctors when they simply do not know what else to tell a patient. And if this is the case, it is doing those who do have fibro a huge injustice. I am just weary of the comparisons and judgements. Sorry this post is so long, but this is really becoming a sore spot for me.