Count your blessings

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by texangal81, Jun 28, 2008.

  1. texangal81

    texangal81 New Member

    I used to hate that phrase. It was always said right after you asked for something and you knew the answer was going to be NO. It is right up there with "eat your vegetables there are starving children in Biafra". Did you know that Biafra no longer exists? I wonder what they did with all of the starving children? "Mom can I have the new 100 GB, color, video, talking, walking, breathing, reproducing, neon IPhone"? "No, count your blessings, there are starving children in Biafra".

    But as I get older, I realized that counting your blessings might be a good thing. So today, as I am blogging, chatting, and playing music very loud, I will count.

    1. I am quite happily divorced. There is no one to cook for, clean for, listen to, or "love, honor, and OBEY". My fiance and I broke up because I refused to be submissive just because I'm the woman....(the EMPLOYED woman). I no longer have to ASK to take a nap nor do I have to hear "lazy A&&" muttered under someone's breath. Short of murder, divorce is the next best thing.

    2. I have two wonderful children and a magnificent, incomparable grandson. There is my 22 year old daughter who lives on her own with my perfect, nearly 3 year old grandchild and my 14 year old son who lives with his dad. But that isn't the best part. The best part is that I no longer have to take care of them. The first one takes care of HER child and for all practical purposes the second one takes care of himself. As for my grandson, I only take care of him when I want to. Therefore if I choose to blog and chat and listen to loud music all day, no one goes dirty or starving except me.

    3. I moved back in with my folks last year after a disastrous job change and house purchase which I personally feel took a rather manageable case of FM and turned it into this monster I have today. This is a mutually beneficial relationship. We all take care of each other. And I have the most money so I can throw it at problems when necessary. Since I've decided I will never move again, if I DO find another man (the two I've already found pretty much did me in), he will have to meet with their approval, live by MY rules, and move in with us :).

    4. If I chose to go to bed on Friday after work and get up Monday morning for work, no one cares. My mom comes in periodically and shakes me to make sure I haven't died and then leaves me alone. If I go straight to my room after work, no one complains. And since I spend so much time in my room, I am going to buy a very large flat panel TV. And I don't have to ASK anyone.

    5. I am still able to work - most of the time. As I've said before, God blessed me with this crazy knack I seem to have for computers and it pays well. As long as I have my fingers, I'll be ok. I have already requested to be buried with a laptop AND wireless broadband connection from anywhere in the world-just in case.

    6. For the most part, I still have my brain, although it is sadly declining a bit. I've decided to counter that decline and turn to something I did when I was young - write (you'll find my 'lighter' stuff on the chit-chat board). So you will be seeing a LOT of me. This DD might take my body (not my fingers, please) but I won't let it have my brain. I worked too hard to develop it.

    7. I still have my teeth. This is important in the event, despite all of my pleading and protestations, that I DO lose my fingers. How would I put in my dentures?

    8. I still have my sense of humor. It really helps when you come crawling through the front door of the office on Monday morning......on all fours. I'll claim a lost earring or something and crawl down to my office. I then hand my office mate a bag of Ultram and he hands me a bag of Klonopin. We work well together.

    I am coming to grips with the very real possibility that my working days might be drawing to a close. I've only had this professional life for 8 years. Eight short years. I often think "what if I had found my brain, my voice, my balls (no offense meant, it is a literary term), when I was young, where could I have gone with my life"? I'm NOT giving up, but even the most generous, understanding, progressive company is going to want something for their money. I will give it to them as long as I can. Blessing Number Nine? Good long term disability if I can convince them I qualify when the time comes. But I'm not there yet.

    10. The biggest blessing of them all, God love you Al Gore......THE INTERNET. Before I got divorced oh so many years ago, I lived an entire lifetime in a chat room. For six months I had an online family, friends, love, sex, entertainment, laughter, compassion, advice, support, fun and much, much more. I never would have survived my divorce without it and that was a WHOLE lot harder than this little disease I've picked up. I found all that once before without ever leaving my chair and by gosh I will find it again!
  2. Janalynn

    Janalynn New Member

    Fantastic post! I must say that I am very proud of the fact that I DO count my blessings and I do so daily.
    Almost 23 years ago my best friend lost her mother suddenly (on my birthday), that day literally changed my life.

    I KNOW how fortunate I am. I could list all of the material things that I am grateful for, but they pale in comparison to the people and love I have in my life.
    Even this crappy FM..there are going to be things that come from it, whether it be new friends, a 'slowing down to smell the roses'...something, that WILL cause me to feel blessed in some way. It's a matter of looking for it.

    I always remember that there are SO many people that have it much worse than I do any minute of any day. Even when it's a beautiful sunny day with a bright blue sky, I remind myself that someone is having a rough day - so I'm thankful for every 'beautiful' day that I get to enjoy, where the people I love are still in my life.

  3. Debra49659

    Debra49659 New Member

    I also try to keep up a good sense of humor when dealing with this DD. If your not laughing your crying:)

    Though sometimes I get to laughin' too hard and then I get to cryin'.

    Thanks for the reminder that things could be worst:)
  4. poets

    poets Member

    I love reading your posts. The way you come across is just delightful! You seem to have a way of making the best out of whatever situation you're in. We should all be more like that! Bless you, and keep the posts coming.

  5. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Well-Known Member

    Hi Texangal,

    I love your sense of humor and yes I try and have some of that too as you know it is not always so easy when you feel like - - - - every day. I have had this stuff for about 25 or so years . I guess I am getting used to it (sort of with no choice) but don't at least have to take care of anyone, except my DH, more or less. We are trying to take care of each other, especially as we AGE !!

    Oh dear, did I say that word?? I agree with so much of what you say. So I am not going to repeat it. This board and the great people here, are indeed a blessing !!

    I also see so many people worse off than I here that it makes me thankful. Yes, I am still alive and have dear friends that I can call on here on this board.

    Try and keep (-: ing !!


    [This Message was Edited on 07/07/2008]