I just needed to come here and ask for support today. My FIL died suddenly and unexpectedly on Friday. He was 75 and in poor health, but not imminently ill. He had a massive brain hemmorhage and died in his sleep Thurday night/Fri morning. Naturally my dh is devestated, although he has many mixed feelings about his dad- it was a very complicated relationship. It is very hard for me too, as I was pretty close to him, and I just lost my Dad (who I was VERY close to), not yet 2 years ago. It was in the summer too, no less, that I lost my Dad. So, this has brought up many difficult memories for me. I would appreciate any advice on how to get through the stress of dealing with the funeral, husband's emotions, etc. His family tends to handle things quite a bit differently than mine - alot of people gathering, day after day, eating, bringing food, staying a long period of time at our house, etc. It seems like when my Dad died people were more respectful of our privacy and our time at home, allowing us to recooperate in between services and stuff. The visitation is not until tomorrow and the funeral Tuesday, and I am already worn out!!! On top of all that I am battling a respiratory virus that I had just about gotten over until all this happened on Friday, and now I'm getting worse again. My in-laws, as usual, don't understand my limitations. Thank you for letting me vent a little bit. As usual, this is the one place I can go and be understood.