After part of your family has accused you of lying about your illness (yeah, because FM is so so fun!), how were you able to deal with family occasions after that? One of my brothers (I have three) accused me of faking Fibromyalgia (and for having back surgery unnecessarily - yeah, having surgery for the first time at 41 was delightful) and I know the family gets together often when I'm not there (hey, I've felt crappy lately) and I'm sure I've been the topic of conversation, which I hate. I have what I have, and the stress of recent events in my life (lost my job, my car, house is in foreclosure, etc.) have made me worse, and lately I don't do much more than go to doctors' appointments, the grocery store, and the library. Thank goodness for our new library - I can request books online, and the staff gathers them up, slaps my name on them, and then sends me an email telling me when they're ready. It takes me less than five minutes to get my 15 or so books sitting on a shelf together at the front of the library, check out, and be back in my car to come home. I doubt that I'd have the energy to roam around the library to get those books myself. Anyway, last weekend, my brother was a huge jerk and accused me of faking not only FM, but even stuff going back to when I was a little kid. Talk about fighting dirty. No one has ever accused me of faking anything before, nor has anyone ever accused me of faking anything to get meds (another accusation) before. I've been taking pain meds since my herniated disk 3.5 years ago and I've never been "stoned" on my meds, and no one has ever seen me act any differently than I've acted my whole life. I have an ex sister-in-law who is a drug addict/alcoholic (pretty much a practicing one most of the time) and a current s-i-l, who is married to the accusing brother and who participated in barrage of attacks, who is also a mostly recovering drug addict/alcoholic. Gee, when she fell off the wagon, where did she come to dry out? Oh yeah, at MY house, because my brother insisted I take her off his hands, and this is the thanks I get. I'm not doing what she did, avoiding the family because she was drunk - my financial problems have caused a huge flare-up and for the last six months or more, I've been *extremely* fatigued and in lots of pain. It takes all the energy I have just to shower, so as you can imagine, I'm often feeling too lousy to go out. Or, if I feel kind of okay, I know that after I shower, I'll be exhausted, so there's no point. While I'm a recluse kind of, I do have a partner, so I'm not home alone, drugging myself into oblivion while pretending to have FM. We both have FM, we've both been stressed, and we're both in pain and exhausted by, well, life. We have a small animal rescue (as you can imagine, the pets have been accused of making us sick) and the pets keep us sane. We're also active online. We have a message board, blogs, Facebook accounts, etc., so if family wants to get ahold of me, they can. But, I was told that it was harmful to "the children" (they're all 18+, and three of them have mothers who are drug addicts/alcoholics!) when I write that I'm feeling lousy. Anyway, after being accused of faking illnesses, drug seeking (I've been seeing the same pain management doctor for 2.5 years, every single month), having surgery unnecessarily...I honestly don't want to be around ANY of them (including my parents and my oldest brother - my other brother lives in another state), knowing that I've been the topic of conversation. I feel guilty because my parents are in their 80's, but they haven't been overly supportive regarding my FM. The herniated disk was incredibly obvious from the MRI I posted on my blog (except to my one brother, who apparently can't see a very large herniation), so no one hassled me about that. But, with FM, I've been told that "maybe (I) have too many pets", "maybe (I) need some fresh air", "maybe (I) shouldn't take so much pain medication" by my mom. And no matter how many times I explain FM and that fresh air isn't going to help and that my pain meds are for PAIN, I'm sure I'm accused of being lazy or something. After the harassing emails and blog & Facebook comments, I don't want to see any of them. I can't imagine EVER wanting to see my brother and his wife again (we were supposedly friends), so it makes me not want to see any of them. Have any of you ever dealt with anything like this...and what did you do?