I know I am not the only one on this board who does not have contact with their family. But that doesn't make it hurt any less. I have not had a conversation with them in a year. They have called and threatened and harrassed me. My father left a voicemail a week after thanksgiving telling me to eff off and he hated me and would hate me forever. I have never felt loved by either of my parents or my sister. Never. I have tried. I was the only child who was ever hit, punched, kicked, etc. I wasn't officially diagnosed until this summer, but have been 'sick' for years and was going to dr after dr when I was talking to them. My grandmother and aunt both know I am sick. The people who call themselves my parents also know the other things that are going on with me. So I received a voicemail 10 minutes ago. It was my father, obviously drunk, saying my aunt's best-friend died this morning and he thought she would appreciate a call from me. REALLY!? SERIOUSLY!? I have been a probation officer and a child welfare worker. I have seen the lowest of the low-lifes. But this is one of the lowest things I have ever experienced. They are toxic. I don't want them in my life. I don't need them. I have overcome so much already. I will overcome this. I have no choice but to overcome it. I have threatened to file for a restraining order, yes I have a basis for it. I have threatened to change my name, my phone number, and my zip code. My question is, how have you effectively gotten the message across to those you do not want contact with? I do not want them in my life or to have any type of contact with my family what-so-ever.