My cousin told me her husband wanted to know if I was having a relationship with a married man. As gracefully as I could, I e-mailed her and told her that I was shocked they would inquire and neither had I wanted anyone to inquire about something as personal as my sex life. (actually, I have no sex life!but that's beside the point,and I sure hope this aint going to be a long drought Then I explained my relationship with my roommate. As closely as I can describe it, he is like an ideal big brother, my pal, my chum. He patiently waits while I get up off the ground when my energy suddenly drains away. I want this support to continue and I will not do anything to jeopardize it. I didn't tell my cousin, but his wife is approving of these temporary living arrangements and visits as often as she can. We are all supporting each other in some way. I've been hurting over this because someone suspected me of something I hadn't done. I'm so tired. I just feel so raw and vulnerable. The last thing I want is to have to expend precious energy having to defend myself. Just the task of thinking clearly takes a lot of work to cut through the fog, let alone trying to make words come off my tongue in the right order. Now try doing that when one is upset on top of it all. For a male (that I don't share intimate stuff with)to ask about this I just feel violated. Even though I understand their curiosity, I feel a boundary has been brutally crossed. Am I being too sensitive? Was I wrong to be shocked and am I wrong to feel like I was attacked? Do people have a right to ask me a question like this?