Recently a long term on & off friend (who reappears like a penny - good or bad) & I spoke on the phone. She told me I had "worked the system" to get my SSDI. I was totally blind sided by this opinion & totally devalued by her judgement. While at the doctor's office yesterday I mentioned this incident. My doctor said, "You still don't see yourself as disabled & you haven't found your new self." Wow, I was surprised by his comments; deep down I know they're mostly true. I intensely dislike labels, have a hard time with people having power over me & much of my life has been spent working & carving out an life identity & friendships that related to my work, education or travels. I don't travel or work now, & have major cognitive problems that make me feel as if I'd have problems with junior high book reports. I'm definitely off the social get togethers list. (I'd rather watch a butterfly on a flower than suffer through dinner, anyway...) And I've definitely fallen out of the middle class into the lower depths of the working class (as defined by economics, at least). How are others here dealing with their changes? I know there was a similar thread some time ago that only gathered a few responses.