Doctor seemed really annoyed

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by susabar, Jan 30, 2003.

  1. susabar

    susabar New Member

    with me !! I called to let him know I am almost back to square one in terms of symptoms after trying to go back to work this week. He said, put yourself in my place, " what do you want me to do" ?? I told him I was sure that dealing with a chronically ill patient must be frustrating. He seemed so annoyed with me, he pushed my appointment up to next week, so we can " sit down and hash this out ". This is my rheumatologist mind you.

  2. karen55

    karen55 New Member

    On the one hand, I can see how frustrating, or even irritating it might be for a doc to see patients all day, answer office calls, pharmacy calls, consults, etc. I know they are very busy people. BUT - on the other hand, it's not necessary to be rude to one of your patients. Maybe he was having a bad day....whatever.....we all do at times. I think if I were you, when I saw him next week, I'd say something like "I'm sorry if I caught you at a bad time, I realize you can't really "do" anything for me as it relates to my job, but I'm really concerned because I'm back to square one, and since you are my doc, I need your help and suggestions." IMO, the best thing he could have done was to push your appointment up, and make sure you DO hash things out with him, hopefully come up with a new plan or some answers. Sorry you're feeling so bad after returning to work. Maybe you can pamper yourself and get lots of rest this weekend.

  3. Annette2

    Annette2 New Member

    Sue, I'm sorry, but I think you need to find a new doctor. If I called a doctor up for anything, and he/she said to me "what do you want me to do?" I'd say "goodbye!" They are trained to HELP PEOPLE!!!! They make MUCHO BUCKS to do what they are supposed to do. Give me a break! He's acting like it's YOUR FAULT that you're not feeling better. He doesn't know what to do, so he's MAKING YOU FEEL GUILTY! I think he should see the shrink that thinks that you're causing your FMS. They would make a great team! Please, if at all possible, find another rheumy!!!! I'm only saying this because I am worried you're not being treated in a respectful manner!

  4. selma

    selma New Member

    More then just talk ! And he wants you to tell him what to do. Make a list of all the tests you WANT done to help you find something to help. Then with the results come to the library & searches and find some answers that helped others. Have Hope ! We'll find an answer someday.
  5. dlizard

    dlizard New Member

    I'd sure tell him it would be "presumptious of me to tell you how to do your job when I can't even do mine"...... interesting words for him.... try it! Good luck!
  6. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    The problem with rheumys is that they are ill equipped to deal with our illnesses which are neurological in nature. I think rheumys just got stuck with us because our pain sometimes resembles arthritic pain and some of us have arthritis as well.

    See whether there is a pain specialist or physiatrist (not psychiatrist) in your area who specializes in CFS/FMS, or even a better rheumy.

    Good luck.

    Love, Mikie
  7. RedB

    RedB New Member

    The Arthritis Foundation is the group that began doing most of the research for FM, because it was originally believed that it was totally a muscular illness. That's why we are always send to Rheumatologists -- because that is their specialty. Sometimes I think they're torn between being irritated that they have to deal with something that they can't help, and being happy that they have a good, continuing patient. Brings in the bucks. My Rheumy is pleasant, and respectul of me, but doesn't really work overtime to make me feel better. He's still kind of from the group that believes in Fibromyalgia, but feels that all you have to do is exercise to get yourself back to normal. And, considering that I always LOOK so good.............

    But, I like him anyway.
  8. basket21

    basket21 New Member

    susabar -
    I just had a thought as I read redb's message. I have always been a makeup person, actually more of a cosmetic junky, wore makeup all the time right from the time when I get up until I go to bed at night.
    At the beginning of my fm diagnosis I was too sore to even think about putting makeup on. After I had attended a few of the insurance assessments and received copies of their reports I then realized they apply a lot of attention to the fact of wearing makeup, your face is pale, flushed, perspiring etc.
    Seeing as we have an invisible illness we have to rely a lot on our outside appearance and the way we present ourselves. I discovered wearing makeup isn't to our advantage. I just thought I'd give you something to think about in case you hadn't thought of it before. Picture yourself as a doctor, technician or whoever is doing this assessment and I walk in all decked out in makeup.
    Just a little food for thought.....take care.......basket21
  9. LadyDragon

    LadyDragon New Member

    I have had the pleasure of annoying several doctors over the past 2 years. I am currently being treated by our family doctor..... he was forced into treating me, and his head nurse, after we both ganged up on him after discovering we both suffered from Fibro. He has done a great deal of research, and goes out of his way to be patient. But sometimes, I can still see the frustration when I ask to try something new, or need a change in dosage. We laugh.... because its all we can do..... he has helped us both a great deal.