Does God only take care of certain people?

Discussion in 'Spirituality/Worship' started by givinup, Jun 15, 2004.

  1. givinup

    givinup New Member

    I have wondered this for awhile. I believe in God and Jesus Christ. But I have had some very bad times the past 8 years. No matter how hard I try to be a good person and pray for guidance, I get nothing. The quote "God Gives You only what you can handle" is so not true. I am not sure how much more I can take. It may not be worth going forward. Some people have it all, and many of them take it all for granted. Does God have Favorites?
  2. Lumare41

    Lumare41 New Member

    I have asked this myself many times recently.I have lost my house, lost my job, been diagnosed with fibro and many others.And now having surgery.

    They told me the surgery won't take away all the pain and headaches but wiil get me out of danger.

    And now I have to worry about having my car repossed.We live shut off notice to shut off notice.While my friends live high on the hog.

    They don't pray like I do.They don't read the bible.But it is not up to us.We have to believe that He knows what we are going through and there is a reason we are going through it.

    And each time we climb over that bump in the road the closer we get to that goal he has for us.

    Please don't lose faith.Keep on going forward Those that take it for granted and don't have faith will surely lose it all in the end.

    Have you a Pastor or church family you can turn to for help?
    Someone who shares your faith who you can pray with ?
    Please share your concerns with someone.

    For now I will pray for you every night.
    Love Luann


    [This Message was Edited on 06/15/2004]
  3. monkeykat

    monkeykat Member

    Hi,
    Thank you for your honest post. It's good to ask questions and these are valid ones. I normally keep a pretty positive attitude despite the CFS which has created numerous losses in my life: job, finances, relationships, looks, memory & mind in general, etc., etc. etc.

    I was confronting God with some of these same questions today b/c I was feeling kind of angry about all the losses. We get weary being ill and it's not an easy road. I will pray that we can both find God's comfort today & that his hand will hold us up during our frustration. Please don't quit searching and asking God questions. Keep reaching out.
    Love, Monkeykat
  4. rockyjs

    rockyjs Member

    If God's favorites are the ones who don't suffer, then the apostle Paul must have been one of His least favorites! He talks about being afflicted, beaten, hungry, cold, shipwrecked, persecuted, and many other trials.

    But he also says, "For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us."

    In Psalm 73 David also talks about those who have it all and how it bothered him to see their arrogance. If I hadn't read the book of Job I might be tempted to believe God has favorites, too.

    What He does have is an incredible love for us that is focused on the end result, not the moment. If I didn't believe that I'm not sure I could have gone on, either.

    My husband used to be a jeweler and it is an amazing process to see gold purified and refined. If I were that gold I wouldn't be too happy about the process, but the end result is worth the heat!

    Jan

  5. suzbee

    suzbee New Member

    At the risk of sounding ugly, let me say that when it seems like God has given me more than I can carry, it's often because I picked up something I wasn't supposed to. Then I have to go lay it down at the foot of the cross. Sometimes more than once. Maybe I'd better leave it at that.

    And your words above, rockyjs, comforted me so much, even though you were trying to comfort another. Yes, Psalm 73 really puts things into perspective.

    Many hugs to you all,
    suzbee
  6. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    I believe we are here in the Earthschool to learn and grow spiritually. Each of us is here for a different reason and it is futile to compare ourselves to others. We have come here for different reasons. In our mortal bodies and minds, we are not afforded the big picture, but believe me, God is in control and knows what He is doing.

    I believe that before we even come here, we choose our lessons and situations in order to grow. I think we do this with God's help and with angels to guide us. Believing this has answered all these questions. I feel like the luckiest person in the world to be living out my purpose here, whatever it is. I pray for strength, healing, and guidence so that I fulfill my purpose.

    Our lives here are no less sacred than our lives when we pass over. We are here for a reason and no matter how hard it gets, we are growing in spirit with each experience, no matter how hard. Some of our most difficult situations bring us strength and renewed faith.

    I know my idea of how this all works is different from how others see it, but it is the only thing which makes sense to me. I do not compare myself to those who seem to lead charmed lives; their path is different from mine. I never ask God, "Why me?" I have never been angry with God over the illnesses and loss in our family.

    I know some of us have seemingly impossible rows to hoe, but God will send us strength if we but ask. Sometimes, it just takes a leap of faith. Place your problems in God's hands, have faith that everything is as it should be, and do your best to uphold your part in living and growing. Where there is life, there is hope.

    Love, Mikie
  7. another_painful_day

    another_painful_day New Member

    when I am at my worst and at my witts end (as I am now in my life) I TRY my best to remember that Jesus Christ was a wonderful human being and he suffered tremendously in his life despite what a great man he was...so then I must be pretty special because I have such difficulties and struggles in my life and God must believe in me enough to find a way to get thru it. I know that as long as I do my best in life, despite the pain and suffering and struggles, that someday me "real" life with be so much better and worth it. As what happened with JESUS cHRIST OUR SAVIOR. he suffered SO MUCH BECAUSE HE loved US all. He was chosen by God. There fore maybe I am chosen because I am strong.

    Dont get me wrong...I will be honest and say I do get angry and feel sorry for myself when I am at my weariest and weakest momment. I do get jealous, envious and angered of those whos lives seeemed to be paved in gold and they seem to sail thru life with ease. who wouldnt? its human nature...but i also know once I get in this state of mind, I pray even harder beause I know that its the enemy who is sneaking up on me and taking advantage of a weak momment.

    I will pray for you along with praying for myself. Hang in there! I know Im trying!Hope this helps alittle

    HUGS 2 U!
    -Diane

    p.s. Thank you for your Post. Just today I was thinking really bad things and being angry at my life. Im struggling to pay bills, raise 4 kids, take care of my hubby who has a seizure disorder, and deal w/ the day-to-day issues that are taunting me. This was definatelt one of those "weak" days I was talking about!!!!!Definately one of those days that I really dislike ANYONE who has it easier than me lol!...definately one of those days where praying real hard would benefit me. AFter reading what you wrote and then responding, I realized that I forget sometimes to take my own advice. Thanks again![This Message was Edited on 06/23/2004]
  8. leannebug

    leannebug New Member

    I agree what some of the others have said here. Actually, a little of what everyone has said here, and I have my own thoughts to add to that too.

    I am a very spiritual person. I believe strongly in God and think we all need faith in our lives. I accept that others have different beliefs but take strength in the knowledge that we all have some higher being and love in our lives to guide us when we are down.

    That can help you more than anything, just having a little hope. For it's the hope and the power of prayer and faith that keeps us all moving forward in our lives during the times like these that try to drag us down.

    I have also come to believe that not only are there days when we need to sit back and let God do his will, for He will protect us and give us what we need. I also believe there are things we can do on other days to move forward with our lives and enrich them in whatever way possible.

    Sometimes just taking one small part of my life and improving it, simplifying it, or beautifying it, makes me feel lighter and more uplifted. Also, on days that I feel (as someone else said) that the weight of the world is upon my shoulders and that I have more than I can bear, I think of those around me that have less. I look hard at my life and thank the Lord for all the good things in my life that someone else may not have.

    On that note, my beautiful little girl just woke up and needs me.

    Blessing to you and peace, may you find it.
  9. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    What a beautiful way to sum it all up. Thanks for your post.

    Love, Mikie
  10. Freedom1

    Freedom1 New Member

    Givinup: I definitely understand your point. I mentioned the same feelings on another board. God said He will not give us more than we can bear, but we feel we have already carried more than our share of the load. We feel we are facing obstacles and problems that we never had before and we are praying people. Others, the unbelievers, seem to be flourshing. What's wrong with this picture? Why are we suffering and what is the Prize -- One Earth? True, we've been promised a reward/prize in Heaven, but since we are still in this earthy body we need healing now/here, and our needs met. God promised He will provide, and said, 'Behold I wish above all things that you may prosper and be in Health even as your soul prospers.' I take Him at His word and firmly question Him during prayer, if after years of praying and waiting results do not come. True, I thank him for all blessings and know His hand is on everything -- but the struggle, the unnecessary expense, and the time waisted by us not being able to do our best in health, makes us question God. I pray that you and others who have physical, financial, and other needs see results and quickly report God's grace and Provision to us and others. Don't Give up, You are not alone.
  11. bakron

    bakron New Member

    David was a man after His own (God’s) heart, yet look at the problems David had. I truly believe that God knows how much we can handle; I also truly believe that God has a purpose for what we are allowed to handle. God is not the giver of trouble for us. Sometimes decisions we make create obstacles that we have; sometimes decisions others make create obstacles that we have; sometimes there are no decisions that create obstacles, they just happen.

    It has been a very hard 35 + years for me. Many times I've wondered why I had to go through the problems that I’ve had, and I’ve wondered how much more I could take before just "dying" from those problems I faced. I've drifted away from God at times; He drew me back each time. Finally, I gave up trying to please Him and have found more peace as I realized I couldn't please Him enough. Many times, it's a simple lesson that we learn. My lessons have been in patience, in trust, in love, in faith, and so much more. It's when we give up and give in that God works the wonders in our lives. It's when we quite trying so hard and fall flat on our faces that he lifts us up and holds us close. These are the lessons of life.

    When we look at others, we really don't know if their lives have been easy; it may appear that their lives have been easy from where we stand. I've been told in the past that everything comes so easy to me, however, I know different. A life that is learning to be what God wants that life to be is not an easy life. However, a life that never even tries to learn about God is a most lonely and frightening life.

    Please take it from this 57 to be 58-year-old woman who has loved Christ so very long, the life that lives to learn what God wants is a life that is truly blessed!

    You are in my thoughts and prayers . . please don't be "givinup!"

    Love in Christ, Jeannette

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