i hate to ask this ..... its probably been on here a thousand times, but i just joined so i thought id give it a shot. my dh says like he ' cares' when i am sick and down and not able to cook and clean and all... but it is so obvious from him that he is fed up with it all and wont even make me soup unless i beg him and then he huffs and puffs... and whines cause i am in bed , when he gets home from work and i almost kill myself trying to make him supper in pain, before i pass out and able to crawl back to bed.. (i get choked up just writing this to you all.) then my stress gets worse and i try to do more to keep him from being mad- but i cant and then i am layed up more and taking more pain meds... and i cripple out to feed the dogs and and it goes on over and over... i am just so alone feeling i cant stand it. and my mom is here now since katrina, and she sees how he treats me and it hurts her also, and that hurts me to... sometimes i will ask him to bring me some water and he gives me a speech almost with his looks and noises he makes going to the kitchen and slamming things around. sob!!! im sorry but this really really hurts. what do you all do? or is it just me? maybe this is just marriage huh?