My partner's cfs kicked in bad around last June. She also has a condition called frozen shoulder which is getting better. On top of that she started menopause a few months after we got together. We havent been intimate since January and dont have an emotional relationship either. I dont know how to handle this anymore. With all this going on she says she doesnt feel like being intimate. She wont go to counseling with me right now because she has too many other appts for her physical ailments. I do understand this. What bothers me is that she has energy to do other things but not for me. But they aren't emotionally connected. I think emotional intimacy may be too "heavy" for her right now. I know she feels guilty because anytime we talk about this she tears up. She says shes sorry that she cant meet my needs right now. She is also upset that her libido is gone. The problem is that I'm starting to to feel like her room mate, not her partner. I'm really struggling with this. I dont want this.She has seen many doctors and takes suppliments that are suppose to help but they dont. She sees a holistic doctor, she doesnt belive in conventional doctors. Anyone going through something similar, family or someone with cfs/fibro please help.