I have had CFS for many years, and I'm 76. I wrote not long ago about having been diagnosed with a particularly nasty form of breast cancer. I am posting the following on the cancer board as well as this one. No one from that board replied to my earlier message. So, I'm posting here again as well. I'm hoping that someone can offer some encouragement as right now I need it. The word from the chemo oncologist is that I am NOT a good candidate for chemo. The word from the radiation oncologist is that she would recommend a mastectomy. She thought radiation would raise havoc because of the CFS. I just had a lumpectomy a couple of weeks ago. I'm still terribly bruised and one wound still not healed. Nothing will be done for at least a month. So, last night I talked with my surgeon about a mastectomy. She offered: "If you were my mother I would not want you to have radiation." The surgeon also said I had a 70 to 75% chance the cancer would not return to my breast. She also said she wouldn't be in a big hurry to have a mastectomy. Said I could wait and tackle that IF the cancer returned. But if there are sneaky little hiding cells, as the oncologist says, and if TTN cancer is as aggressive as they say it is, how do I know some of the little critters aren't clumping into a tumor as I type this note? Aaaarrrgh. So, why am I writing? Because I'm upset. Because I can't think straight. Because I don't know what to do. Because my boob is sore. AND, because if I don't have a mastectomy in March, I won't have anyone available to care for me while I heal. AND, because I won't be able to talk with my surgeon again until Feb. 22nd. AND because another daughter, who is involved in the medical field, says, "Don't go by what the surgeon says. Go by what the oncologists say." Okay. The radiation oncologist recommended a mastectomy as her first choice for me. The chemo oncologist, after he said I wasn't a viable candidate for chemo for several reasons, started to discuss a mastectomy as an option, and then started talking about a mastectomy's "psychological effects on a woman's sense of femininity" (or something like that) when I said I hated the idea of more surgery which have nothing to do with whether or not I have two breasts. At 76--big deal! So he sent me to the radiation oncologist, but that was before I knew all the side effects of radiation therapy. The chemo oncologist also said there could very well be other cancer cells in my breast lurking around that didn't show up in the sentinel node, the other node they took, or the tissue around the tumor. He said at the present time I am cancer free--unless cells are lurking elsewhere. Triple negative cancer is very aggressive. He guessed there were cells lurking in there, undetected and undetectable at the present time. But So now I am probably going to have to have a mastectomy after I heal from the lumpectomy. I suspect this message is confusing. It's the best I can do right now. I guess I just need some emotional support.