My brother has had CFIDS since the late 80's. Living w/ someone who has CFIDS is a big education - and I know it's tough. I've read the posts about the pain of being cheated on, and my heart breaks. My brother has had to let some relationships go and not even begin to pursue others because he knew he couldn't sustain the relationship and the woman's life would suffer. I don't have CFS but I can't stand how invisible this whole illness has been and how it's hurt so many people. I wish my brother's life hadn't been hit by this Mack Truck of an illness, and I want to make the general public give respect to CFIDS sufferers and to those who care for you. I don't know what else I can do except to tell the human side of this illness - if only my parents had known my brother's suffering, they might have understood him before they died. How do you make relationships work? How do your SOs and children and relatives treat you? I bet a lot of them feel so guilty about feeling sick and tired of your CFIDS. Is this hard to talk about with them?