Hi, My fiance was diagnosed with FMS over a year ago. He teaches private lessons on guitar. Since then he has been in the hospital for a staph infection (he still can't get rid of) and missed many days of work due to pain, flare ups, etc. We got engaged over the holidays. I really love him and I am working to really understand fibromyalgia. I have been there with him since the beginning...going to all the doctors, etc. Today my parents told me that they will not pay for our wedding because they think my fiance is lazy because he has lost students. They know of his fibromyalgia but I know they don't understand it. His family doesn't either. His mother is always on his case about him forgetting to do something or just not having the energy to do it. She leaves him lists every single day! (we currently live with her until we move next month) his sister and his mom both think he is exaggerating and/or faking. I do not know what to say to his family or to mine. I am tired of trying to explain it to them. They don't get it and they don't care if they do get it or not. We have gotten books on it, left out articles for them to read...nothing works. Any suggestions? Any suggestions on how to explain to my parents about him not being "lazy?" We are both devastated by their decision today. He already beats himself up enough over not having enough energy and now my parents have just added to it.