I wanted to make sure you saw this reply so I put it as a post. I am so sorry to hear about your son. I come from a family of alcoholics so I can relate. I don't think there is anything that you can do except to pray about it. I went to AL-NON once. I don't know if you have tried it or not, but know that it can help. I hope that you don't give up talking to him about it, and letting him know how much you love him etc. I pray all goes well!!