Hi! I have a very close friend who is suffering with very bad case of FMS since many years! In addition she is starting all kind of "side" deceases because she is not taking care of herself! She is, ofcourse, seeing a doctor regulary but she is not willing to change her life as radically (if it needs to be radical) as I think she should. Her husband is not even close to realise and recognice that he should help around the house etc... she is doing all the domestic work in addition of a VERY stressful work she has. She is not willing to change her life and start to do less things but instead likes to do things that eventually makes her feel really, really bad and exhausted that she ends up in to a hospital (happend few times past 6 months)! In a way she is trying to hide her sickness from the other people who doesn't know her well enough. This is partly because she is very ambitious specially about her work and doesn't want the sickness to effect peoples oppinions etc. She is not letting people to help her in any way and will certainly not ask for help, oh no! I'm one of the only (if not the only one) who she ever asked to help in anything and that's only because I've been really pushing about it. She thinks that there is no way out of her pain so she doesn't even try to do anything about it! She says that at least she still able to do things now so why not do them - "I want to live my life full on while I still can". This is the part that really scares me... If she keeps going like this soon she will be unable to ablsolutely anything! She just doesn't see it that way. She was just diagnosed a several herniated disks and that she possibly has twisted her spinal cord!!! Even that doesn't have any effect to her, although she said that she really scared about possible back surgery she may have to go through! Can any one help me and give me hint's how I get her understand that there is no other way than totally de-stress her life as it has come too far! I love her and I don't want to loose her!!! I would help her a lot more but it is "bit" impossible as I'm living on a different continent (I'm in Europe and she is in States). Thank you so much for your comments!!!