How are you doing now without the pessary? Did you consider the sling for the bladder? They supposedly have some new kind of material. Of course, it only lasts for around 5 years or so and then it's gotta be fixed again. My cousin, who's the same age as me, has a prolapsed bladder and is taking meds for incontince(sp?). She's also holding off on the surgery. Just checking on ya. I'd lost that other thread.