I was having deep thoughts ( : about the "Gifts" questions. Like many of you I am pissed and feel I have miss out on the best years of my life and my children's lives not to mention what the DD has done to my marriage. On the other hand, as I sit here and read what others have to say and what I turn over in my own head there is a great distinction. I have had many "insights" I may not have had. There is a difference. So many of you have made that very clear to me reading the words you so eloquently have written or feelings you have shared. So, in short. FMS does not make me feel gifted in any way even thankful that I have it. I am just not there. But I have gained many insights I probably would not have had from others or within myself. Just had to get that off my chest. ANOTHER THOUGHT PROVOKING QUESTION ON THIS BOARD--THANKS. Lynda B.