push and crash really hit home here. I am a single mom with 2 teen age daughters at home 16 and 18 in high school.and 2 sons 23 and 24,and a daughter in law. We go to counseling for coming out of an abusive marriage. The counselor is very good I like him but am frustrated by his response to my need of help. He told us I shouldn't rely on my daughters for all the help I need. yet I have no one else. I can't afford someone to come in and clean or shop for me. I feel guilty asking for so much as I was a do it yourself person.(wonder woman) well wonder woman crashed hard 5 years ago and haven't been the same since. I have had fibromyalgia as the dominate diagnosis for as long as I can remember with out being diagnoisted. with many others secondary. 5 years ago I was totally down for 6 months all I could do was go to the restroom. I thought my life was over but thanks to a great doctor and accupuncture I was able to walk again. In 2004 I feel like my whole life was over ( the life I knew anyway) oldest daughter age 15 at the time had her permit and I was to exhausted to drive or pay attention and we got t-boned by a dodge durange on my side the passenger side I was knocked out for six hours. Got a concussion. on the lighter side on my bad days I tell my daughters as a joke I feel like I was hit by a dodge durango.that was in may. In june of that year my dad died from liver cancer. in september my grand father died of old age. and in october on our anaversary my husband informed me he found someone who wasn't a hypocondriac. 2004 the worst year of my life I am just picking up the peices. I never could figure out how everyone around me could have a job take care of the family and house and not be tired. I was never a lazy person so this pushed me to do more and be better only as you all know it got worst. kicking and fighting the whole way I live in a not so tidy house and I drives me crazy and in turn I drive my daughters crazy. everyone tells me find a balance and I can't seem to get there. I have a hard time living with guilt of I shoulds and I can't. I see everyone else has that same out look but how do you keep it from driving you crazy? Thnk you for letting me vent I needed that.