I wanted to say inspite health and emotional baggage that I and many others here drag around daily, this is a long weekend to reflect, however briefly, on those who served at war and on the homefront, because wives/husbands and mothers also 'serve' while soldiers are out there. So many soldiers are returning shaken up in ways we haven't seen in previous wars. The kind of healing that needs to happen, may not be possible in their lifetimes. THere's alot of stuff going on but still many things to be grateful for...gratitude doesnt equal how rich you are. There's a news picture released today of an African father cradling his newborn daughter in his lap with his head in his hands, his wife had died giving birth to the baby. There was no mention of his work, money. He was mourning the unavoidable loss they will experience ahead of them as family. People are committing such off the chart acts these days, mental illness and the services that deal with vets, general public issues, emergency issues are overwhelmed. So if you can be gentle with someone near you, consider being so. We seem to have entered an era where the many need consideration and care from the few who can offer it, and there is always some way to offer compassion and kindness, even if its genuinely loving words...keep platitudes to yourself, they're insulting when people are truly suffering. I'm not preaching or lecturing...it feels sometimes we get so caught up in the isolation of our own grief, it can be overwhelming how it sujrrounds us and suck up the oxygen we need...try to look outside yourself and find something to be grateful about, there is always, someone in worse shape...and on this holiday, say Thank you.