I have fibro/cfs and assorted other 'goodies' (unwelcome chronic health conditions) Have been on Soc. Sec'y Disability for years. Grew up in a big city, ended up in suburbs--can no longer drive,afford a car,etc and am single and no money to get out much anymore, or energy--I just don't fit into the suburbs--I want to live in Manhattan, but have no money. Every year that goes by I feel I am wasting my life. I am bored to tears (sorry, but it's just the truth, for me. I am venting, and do not mean to offend people) by one more story about someone's grandkid, or their renovation, or family reunion (i also hate the nuclear family, came from a really messed up family situation, and if one more person says some cloying platitude like "Family is the most important thing. . ." GRRRR) My family was chaotic abusive crazy destructive, etc and it galls me to hear cliches like that. If I had stayed with my family and acted like they wanted me to I would probably be dead now, or in much worse shape than I am now. I am by nature a bohemian, though I have tried for years here, I just can't get with the 'join a club and conform' crowd. (BTW I joined tons of things when I got here, and never was able to make a real connection with anyone) No one here gets me, or gets fibro or chronic fatigue. I feel I live among Stepford folk, not real flesh and blood people with real feelings. The only time I have felt happy and at home is in large, walkable older cities with some history and vitality, where all kinds of people, rich, poor, middle class,etc (and all races and nationalities, cultures, languages--I love that!I grew up in inner city, poor, with people of all ethnic,racial backgrounds--we all looked out for one another, whatever we looked like,it felt like community then, but these suburban people are all in their own bubble) walk on the streets and there is serendipity and diversity and discovery around every corner.(NOT cities like L.A. where you must drive everywhere) Anyone else a single, middle-aged person with no money stuck in a bland small town which feels like it's sucking the life out of you and that you are happier in more exotic and interesting places? And find your joy in books, and art,and ideas, and poetry, and history and people you can connect with--to me, friends and a sense of community are much more fulfilling than family--Again, I am only speaking for myself, I am NOT knocking you if you are truely happy in traditional family life--different strokes for different folks, etc.