hello everyone, i am needing some feedback/advice from people with more experience in the area of negotiating travel and family events. i was diagnosed with cfids in february of this year (2009) but have been ill since 2006. things have gone from bad to worse for me and i've been housebound and unable to walk on my own without help. even on a day that i can, i am so exhausted by the time i make it from one room to another that i've re-used my tissues as many times as possible before getting a new box my brother has been engaged for a couple of years and just spontaneously announced that he was getting married in september, only two months from now! he and his finacee live on the east coast with the rest of my family and i'm here on the west coast with my partner. they don't know the extent to which i've had difficulty walking, but they do know how sick i am. this news has brought up so many feelings for me. feelings of hopelessness about my condition, anger that he didn't plan it with more care to my condition, confused about what do (i'm in no state physically to fly anywhere, but how can i miss my brother's wedding?!) and angry at the people around me who are all telling me what to do ("well you'll have to miss it!" "it's only one day...who cares?" "it's his fault for planning it this way, don't feel bad!" and on and on) if i go, i will be done for. i'd have to be taken in a wheelchair (which i don't yet have and i'm unsure of the process to get one) and even then, sometimes i don't have enough strength to sit up. help! at the same time, i feel like i could summon the strength from the depths of my being, but it will cost me a high price. i've been doing the SHINE protocol and seeing a dr. through the holtorf medical group. so far i'm not noticing any dramatic shifts, but apparently my thyroid dose was too high which may be underpinning this new level of wipe-out. any thoughts on navigating this tricky situation? thanks for reading!