I am caregiver to my mom and her only child, or so I thought for 49 years. She is off on a trip right now with friends who are wonderful enough to take her under their wing and give me a break and give mom one last vacation. I am not sure she should have gone but she wanted to and I know that she is going to come back exhausted but oh well...if she had fun, then so be it. I take care of everything for her to keep her in her own home and we are on the verge of getting Home Health Care in now to help. Friday I picked up her mail as usual and opened it as usual. I have to weed out things that upset my mom and also I take care of all her bills etc. This is where my life was turned upside down, even more so than her diagnosis of AD. I found a card forwarded from a Catholic agency that specializes in adoptions. In the card was another card, a Mother's Day Card with a letter from the daughter my mom gave up for adoption back in I think 1955. The woman, my 'sister', apparently wants to meet my mom. It appears there have been prior letters at some point. I googled and facebooked the woman and she looks exactly like my mom. I mean scary exact!!!!!!!!!!!! She even was wearing the same shirt my mom had on last year for her 69th birthday and we put the pictures side by side and OMG. My mom had eluded to a big secret several times but has said she wasn't ready to tell me. I also know she had a horrible childhood with an abusive father, because her mother died when she was 9, and an aunt took her in when she was in high school. That means after the baby was born she went to live with my aunt. Now......I believe I should talk to her about it and tell her it is ok and ask her if she wants to meet her daughter. But I need advice. I am thinking it will help her to get the secret out but I am not sure. Also, this poor woman, my sister, knows nothing about our mom's AD. My sister had a good life and says so in her letter but wants to thank my mom for sacrificing to give her that life. Also, she has a son, so my mom has another grandson. Ironically named the same name as my grandson (My mom's great HELP!!!!!!!!