My Dad is 82, and insists on taking care of my mom, who is in the early stages of alzheimers. He CAN'T! He loses his patience, raises his voice at her, she cries. I'm trying to get him to understand the disease, but he is having a hard time with everything. My brother wants them to move next to him and his wife and teenage daughters, so that they can help, but he is adamant about NOT moving. My parents live 45 minutes away from me and my brother. I'm trying to hold down a full time job, coping with my fibromyalgia, and trying to be there for them, when he calls me at all hours with an emergency dealing with my mom. What do I do? Tomorrow I'm speaking with her Dr. and I'm going to try to get her on a new medication (Aricept), but the last time we tried (a year ago), he wasn't diligent enough on giving her the meds, and she ended up taking too much, and we ended up in the ER, at midnight. So we forgot that. Now I'm going to try again. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!