Have been on Fm/cfs chat for awhile now just found this. I am having a real problem with holiday's upon us, for the past 20 years was marriied to a man who said he was a christian. Told many lies to me,abusive and used Gods word to controll and manipulate me. So ending in divorce Dec 1 this year. With all my health problems I don't get to church much but Keep God close through prayer and music and reading the bible. My problem is I get so depressed this time of year because of the fighting my soon to be ex causes with visitation and what he and his family do on these days is drink and fight amongst them selves. I allowed my daughters to go to their dad's for thanksgiving because their grand father was in from out of town and they hadn't seen him for 5 years. They as usual had alcohol present, My youngest daughter 16 wanted to stay the night at her aunts afterward so I let her well around 10 pm she called and said she was sick and coming home. the Flu has been going around our house so I figured it was that. Friday afternoon she informed me she was drinking and got sick. Now how in a house full of people can someone not see a 16 year old is not normal and is so drunk she is sick? My 18 year old daughter said she knew something was wrong but didn't want to cause a seen and she never dreamed her sister would do that. When I called her dad to ask about the situation he said she never drank there it must have been at her aunts house. I explained every where my daughter said there was alcohol in his home which I could have never known as we have been seperated for 5 years. He wasn't concerned with his daughter drinking or how she was all he was trying to do was place the blame on someone elses house not his. I know my daughter is accountable for her actions and she was and is grounded and excepts she made a huge mistake. But as a parent you are also accountable for your child when they are in your home. I know what my children do in my home and I know who they are with. I am going crazy trying to get their dad to see that he needs to know what goes on in his home or the girls are not allowed there anymore. ok done venting but could really use prayers God bless all.