Hiya, I'm new to this board and relatively new to the world of this terrible, terrible DD. I myself am not a sufferer but my boyfriend is. We are totally in love with each other but this awful DD is trying its best to come between us! Two months into our relationship he suffered a relapse and he continues to be bedridden and in terrible pain and agony. I want to help him and be supportive in any way I can. He however, is afraid to let me see him suffering. He won't let me or his family or friends see him. I feel so helpless. I want to be able to help by doing just basic stuff even like cleaning his house or doing errands for him or even just holding his hand. He is trying to protect me from this - he doesn't want me to see him weak and I am finding this so frustrating. Is there anything I can do? How can I let him know I care and want to be there for him and that this DD won't drive me away? He will only chat online to me now or via text (we do so throughout the day, everyday) - I haven't seen him in three weeks yet he lives 15 mins from my house. When we talk I just briefly ask him how he is doing because I sort of think well if we talk about other things mostly then its a way of letting in some 'normalcy' to his life. But I feel like there's an elephant in the room so to speak! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I would also like to say to any of you who might read this post who have this DD that I have such a huge amount of respect for you - I think to endure this you have to be among the strongest people in the world! As if the symptoms of this disease are not enough to suffer with, the lack of medical understanding and attention around this is just appalling. I wish you all the best! t.