I've just heard a ton of info from a loving relative that would really like to help me. You know the kind--read an article or two talk to a person that has fibro and you're an expert. How can anywone really know anything about how to help others with this illness? I really appreciate everyone here because you just tell what has helped you. Several of the themes -- allergies, sleep problems, tender points,etc. have helped and then again a good night's sleep is like chasing a butterfly for me. Anyway, do you agree that one person has no idea what the other person's degree of pain, sypmtoms etc can be or can be compared? My uninvited helps were to get out of bed and get a shower 1st thing. (Some days that's possible some days I get the kids out of the house and go back to sleep) OR massage... sometimes if you touch my back I'll knock you into next week... if I do it it's better. It just makes stress on a good relationship because of all of the HELP I get.