I have a wonderful husband, and generally we do a pretty good job of being mutually supportive, etc. We are both just beginning to really understand fibro, as I have just finally figured out why I've been in pain for 15 years. I've been flaring all year (really stressful year!) with fibro stuff -- really not functioning nearly as well as I usually do, which is generally pretty well. I'm still able to work, but there are many times that is about all I can manage -- I come home and want to collapse. The last 6 weeks have been awful -- I needed to have a complicated root canal, and that sent me into flare city with spasms and migraines -- not fun (to say the least.) This is by far the worst off I've been since I met him. Problem is: Although hubby says he gets it, he really seems to have no idea how tiring it is for me to socialize. I do a phenomenal job, I think, of putting on a happy face and going out anyways, but it really, really drains me -- often I pay dearly for it for days. Husband made a comment the other night that really hurt me -- he thinks I don't go to enough of his work functions (parties, etc.) -- Okay, this past season I went to an x-mas party of one of his co-workers, two days before a scheduled root canal (meaning major pain in addition to fibro pain)-- we took public transportation, walked several blocks uphill in the rain, only to make chitchat with people I don't know. I didn't complain, but asked for a gold star for effort. He got angry that I wasn't up for dinner with his parents the following evening, even though I felt awful, and also had work I needed to get done for the following week. I also spent x-mas eve and x-mas day with his family, as well as new years -- all in extreme agony -- but I put on a happy face and did the whole social thing anyways (I love his family, but they can be pretty overwhelming when there are a lot of people there.) Then, he says I'm not rallying enough for him! Who does he think I am??????? How on earth am I supposed to get through to him? I tell him and tell him how much I hurt, and I think he just tunes it out after a while.