What does your marriage/relationship look like now? Does your partner do lots of things without you? Do you feel left behind? Does your partner feel guilty? Could they even care less? My husband has always been super independent and always has gone off on his own. I am the opposite and don't like to be home alone. Now, me being sick gives him a free pass to do whatever he wants.(jab, jab) He can be very thoughtful and brings me a treat now and then. He always runs my errands for me. He drives the kids everywhere and even coached their football team. He makes supper most nights and cleans that up. He even brings me a plate of food into our bedroom. He doesn't clean anything in the house. No bathrooms, sweeping, vacc'ing, no dusting, no laundry, but he irons his shirt for work every morning. He goes out of town for work about twice a month. He is very social with his co workers and will stop for a drink after a meeting. He plays cards once a month. He isn't a big hunter or fisherman. He will go once a year, maybe to a Packer game in Greenbay....that is about 9 or 10 hrs from here, I think. He doesn't do the week long fishing trips like some guys. What does your life look like and what is acceptable to you? How much is too much? When do you start to feel neglected? When should they feel guilty? I realize everyone is different in what is okay for them. I just was curious about how others like me, live? Do you struggle with this topic? I know that this is a huge deal to me. I think I get my "worth" confused with the amount of time hubby spends with me. I do get very lonely. What do ya'll think?