How many who work full time feel better at home?

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by lvjesus, Nov 11, 2008.

  1. lvjesus

    lvjesus Member

    I know that sounds like a strange question, so let me flesh it out for you. I am a bookkeeper and even though this job has a lot more getting up and down than some, since we are a small company and there are only 2 of us in the office so sometimes we have to do other things, like escort wide loads, tag furniture on the lot, etc., it is primarily a sit down job. The chair is okay so that is not causing problems.

    The odd thing I have noticed is that if I am home all day, like Saturday, I can manage my pain better. I can take less pain meds even without the heating pad, etc. I have been having some issues with the achy pain that feels like fever which is AWFUL and I have less of that too if I am at home all day. I am curious who else has noticed this and what you think the reason is. All I can think of is that at home I am changing positions more frequently, as in I might be cleaning or cooking something some and sitting and watching tv some, etc.

    Let me know what you think.
    God Bless,
  2. hensue

    hensue New Member

    most people have a hard time getting out of bed. Mine was the opposite when i was working i got up and down it was draining and some days i could not do it.
    now i dont have to and dont feel like so i think i feel worse.
    make since
    kinda like you when u are trying to move around you feel better some days you just cant
  3. Janalynn

    Janalynn New Member

    I think it probably depends on what kind of work you do, flexibility etc. I work three part time jobs. One of them I have to be in the office certain hours - Some days are just darn long and getting up and down to the printer/fax etc. can be exhausting to me - BUT at the same time, sometimes the work takes my mind off my pain. Odd. One of my other jobs, I have to be in the office at various times for shorter periods - I don't have to get up and down as much or stay working at my computer.

    Somedays I can't wait to get home and hit the couch. I actually daydream about it. Most days I can't get going in the morning. Thankfully I don't have to be there first thing or I'd never make it.
    For me, being around people is probably good for me. I do quite a bit of work from home and yes I love it, but I swear I'd never leave the house if I didn't have to.

  4. Shalome1990

    Shalome1990 New Member

    I would rather be at home. But, I am so tired that I do not want to deal with people/stress and I find more of that at work. It is not because I have a stressful job, or hard work but I think people are stressful. Plus, I feel like they don't understand what is wrong with me. I stayed at home yesterday to work from home, I got more done at home, and washed some clothes, took a nap and then got up and worked some more. Makes sense because they say stress makes our pain/fatigue worse.....
  5. doxygirl

    doxygirl New Member

    If you are at home and you become sick ( crash ) you go to bed! or lay down......if you become sick at work on the other are basically screwed right?

    Just eliminating the pressure of not knowing if your going to get sick at work or not is enough to make your nervous wreck!

    Make sense?

  6. lvjesus

    lvjesus Member

    That makes a lot of sense, Doxy. I suppose it could me mental too. I know Tuesday I stayed home to wait for a UPS delivery and I felt better than at work. It is mystifying me. I did quite a bit on the computer that day - wrote some stuff for a home missions outreach we are starting and a skit for the upcoming talent show at my church - while I was doing other things off and on.

    I did not do too much Tuesday but Friday I cleaned all day because I had a jewelry party on Saturday. I was sore the next couple of days but pretty much okay.

    I guess it is true at home you can take more breaks too. I do stop and sit in a comfortable chair when I eat lunch and other activities are done sitting in a more comfortable place and are punctuated by periods of just reading or stopping to watch something on tv. I think having carpet to walk on might help too.

    Thanks everyone and God Bless.
  7. FMsaddenedspirit

    FMsaddenedspirit New Member

    Good question ...

    I now work from home, have for the last year.. there is no way I would be able to work if I had to go into the office to do so.... I work a split shift thank goodness with a 2 hour break.. I struggle to do this .. four hours at a time
    normally I take a small nap during my 2 hour break I lay down for at least 1 hour .. I find if I don't do this . I'm to beat and in to much pain to be much comapny for my family after work...
    I am not sure how much longer I am going to be able to work even from home.. It scares me to no end , as my husband could not support us on his paycheck alone
    I have no choice but to put my legs up often , it just kils me to walk as my feet hurt so very very much , even just sitting at my desk kills me with pain most times . I have to get up and streach a lot and my back . well i'm sure you know ..

    so very much that I can no longer do , more all the time

    My best wishes for you and every body on this board . thanks every body for the support , understanding , and love
  8. star273

    star273 New Member

    I think its that fact that in your mind you have to be some place at a certain time. Thats whats stressful about it and that we all know stress makes us feel worse. I work a part time job (I know I could NEVER work a full time job) and just the thought of having to get up and be somewhere at a certain time makes me so stressed that I hate the thought of it. Even though I get up with the kids and get them breakfast and off to school I knew that I could be at home and just relax, sit on heat or ice if I need too, do things at my own pace compared to work. I wish it was easier for us to get in some kind of disability. I know I would do it in a heart beat. I hate coming to work and having to sit in my chair crooked because I cant stand to sit on my hip. All those things make us stressed and make us have more pain.
  9. klcooper

    klcooper New Member

    For me, mornings are really rough. It takes so much energey to get to work, that's half the battle.

    It helps so much to be able to sleep in on the weekend and rest more. To get up on time, get my son out to school on time then get myself ready and get thru traffic to get there - it's draining. Then to try and stay focused, it takes alot!!

    My goal 5 days a week is just to make it to work, stay there all day and make it home. [This Message was Edited on 11/14/2008]
  10. wendysj

    wendysj New Member

    I've recently gotten a new boss. (He bought our franchise.) I sat him down and told him my health history without all the details. He said, "just get the work done". So I no longer have to worry about that. I can go home and finish the day if necessary. Also, having a doctor that knows my pain levels fluctuate and will give me pain medicine really took a lot of the stress off.

    I am very happy with my arrangements now. (Although, I am going to the doctor today for some results... things could change quickly.)

  11. klcooper

    klcooper New Member

    Having a good boss makes a huge difference too. Mine are aware of the FM and let me flex, if I come in late I can stay and make up the time. If I dont feel well and can't make it in, they understand because I work hard when I'm there. It makes life alot easier.
  12. lvjesus

    lvjesus Member

    All of that makes a lot of sense. and I think there are a lot of contributing factors. I keyed in to what someone said about a good boss. My boss is not "bad" but he is very, uh, "exacting". Is is very hard to explain but he feels the need to point out EVERY error in a way that is sometimes sarcastic or has a way of making you feel stupid. I say it is hard to explain because he does not yell or anything like that, it is just his tone, sort of a cross between disappointment (like he expected better of you) and resignation (like you were doing so well, but he knew it was only a matter of time before you screwed something up). And he uses that expression too, screwed up. One day a customer called about his bill and he said "let me let you talk to the gal that screwed that up" :)

    That does not bother me like you might think. I am resigned to that and to the fact that I am not perfect and 99% of the time, the mistakes I make will get pointed out to me. So if I am expecting the other shoe to drop, then most of the time, I can just let it roll off my back. Like most things, it depends on your attitude, and I know I cannot change or control him. The only control I have is on my own attitude. With my personality, I do tend to react with guilt and it does create tension when he is in the office, although in fact he IS a very nice man, just particular. It must be hard on him, I think, to be such a perfectionist because then you struggle with constant and unrelenting disappointment.

    Anyway, if I can let it roll off and just say okay and not rush to explain or feel bad, it is easier for me and the past few days he has been in a good mood and I have been more relaxed and chatting a little and such and it has lightened my mood a lot, but in the long run, it is not the source of the problem because the pain and fatigue are not going away.

    I do think a lot of it is being able to get up and move around during the day rather than to be tied to your desk. I do feel that I need to be productive and working all the time I am there and at home I can just do something diff if I get stiff or tired. Sorry to be so long winded! God Bless and I pray for a pain free day for you all.
  13. Slayadragon

    Slayadragon New Member

    A lot of workplaces have toxic mold problems. Toxic mold produces a deadly chemical that is 1,000x more dangerous than that of many man-made chemicals known to be very harmful. Susceptible people who work in those places tend to get quite sick, but can recover somewhat (though often not fully) if they're away from work for a few hours or days.

    Not everyone is affected by toxic mold. It depends on genotype and previous exposures.

    Some people have toxic mold in their homes, and so they might feel better at work if it's clear there.