How Normal is it for one to suffer from Depression when

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by janieb, May 15, 2006.

  1. janieb

    janieb New Member

    they have fibro? Seem to be going through a very bad stretch. We've been in the process of remodeling our home to list it (by ourselves) so it's taking forever and it's always a mess.

    I have family members with some pretty serious problems who have no one else to go to, I'm trying to switch to the guai protocol, and running into brick walls.

    The specialist wants me to exercise in a gym 3 days a week and I just beat myself up. I know what Kate means when she says "just get over it." That's what I tell myself. My husband thinks it's depression. Is that a normal part of the fibro?

    My own GP said to come in when I couldn't get out of bed for 3 weeks, because then it would be depression.

    Is this normal with fibro or am I overacting?

    janieb

  2. ANNXYZ

    ANNXYZ New Member

    your doc would allow you to be so incapacitated by depression ( THREE WEEKS IN BED!) before wanting to treat you for it. That is appalling .

    The answer to your question is "YES" . Many, if not most of us develop depression. Any halfway intelligent person KNOWS that chronic pain CAUSES depression.

    Perhaps your doc is a good guy , but his dialogue with you would cause me to question how skilled he is treating depression. And do not feel bad if you have depression,
    it is EXTREMELY common , not only with those who have CFS / FM .

    There are CONSTANT posts here from members who ask questions about meds for depression. Having depression does not make you a weak or inferior person. It is ALL about brain chemistry , and we know that our brain chemistry is very affected by this disease .

    I hope you get the help you deserve to have a quality
    life . You are under a lot of external stress , and this disease itself is SOOOOO very stressful. God bless you !
  3. janieb

    janieb New Member

    I felt rather stupid asking that question, but after serving several as the co-coordinator for our Employee Asssistance group and going through lots of training, I would not be ashamed to be on antidepressants. Our employees were pretty open to counseling, medications, and any other treatments.

    A friend of mine who was the school psychologist said he regularly went to his counselor to get his yearly "check up from the head up."

    I apppreciate your answer. Her comment sounded strange to me, too. The depression isn't there all the time; it's just that I feel I should be getting really organized now that I'm home and I can't seem to get anything done.

    Thanks, again.

    janieb
  4. Hope4Sofia

    Hope4Sofia New Member

    Hi Janie,

    Yes, depression is a constant struggle. We get depressed because of the pain. We get depressed because we just can't keep on top of our responsibilities. Then there's the total lack of energy which tends to isolate us. And the alone feeling we get when others just can't seem to understand us or believe us.

    There is a lot of legitimate cause for depression with this illness.

    I go to a therapist on a weekly basis which helps me to process my thoughts. There was also a time when I was on Zoloft because I just couldn't dig out of my emotional pit. It made a huge difference for me at that time...I should say it made all the difference for me and my family who needed me to get a grip.

    You are not alone. Most of us understand your struggle.

    Blessings and comfort,

    Sofi
  5. ANNXYZ

    ANNXYZ New Member

    If your symptoms are mild and you are functioning ok , you might try 5HTP ( with Vit B6 ) to boost serotonin.

    Another here says 4oo mg Sam E has helped her depression . It is also supposed to help with muscles and joints .

    My persoanl friends who have nasty FM pain have benefited from trazadone for DEEP sleep and from paying close attention to nourishing their bodies ( nutrition )
    and from REDUCING stress as much as possible . B vitamins and fish oil , and magnesium have also shown to be helpful in studies .
    [This Message was Edited on 05/15/2006]
  6. janieb

    janieb New Member

    However, I can go out and act quite normal, AFTER I GET THERE. But, I don't want to go to even the most enjoyable activities. It just seems like too much trouble. Also, I can be having an OK day and right in the middle of it a panic attack strikes (finally found the words for it) and it's a matter of time before I can get myself under control. Even though I don't know what I'm panicked about, I know something awful is going to happen.

    I do take Tramadol for pain and Xanax for sleep, but the sleep is still illusive. I can go to sleep, but by 2 a.m. I'm awake and waking every hour or so. It seems my best sleep is in the morning from about 5-8 a.m.

    For many years we've slept with the TV in the bedroom going all night. My husband doesn't hear well and got angry when I would turn the noise lower, but last night we agreed to turn the set off when I was going to sleep. I'm thinking we both slept better. Should set it up on the timer.

    This has been difficult for me, and I'm sure many others among us, because whenever anyone asked, I was "fine." They really don't want to know how I am, with a few exceptions. I'm the one other people go to with their problems and they've got some pretty scarey ones right now.

    Would it surprise you the know that my husband is a recovering alcoholic (for 20 years) and I'm codependent?

    My parents were from the generation where you pull up your socks and get on with life. You're the first one to work and the last one out and you always do more than anyone else. And even though, I was from a loving, caring, close to ideal home, expectations for us were high.

    You probably know more about the real me than most anyone else alive.

    Thank you for listening and giving advice and God bless.

    janieb
  7. ANNXYZ

    ANNXYZ New Member

    I can not believe you are doing as much as you are given the circumstances . You sound like an extremely level headed person with sound judgement .

    Do everything possible to take good care of YOURSELF .
    I think everyone here would agree that you MUST have deep stage 4 sleep ( where tissue repairs itself ) to
    begin improving with CFS/ FM .

    This is just my personal opinion, but I would watch the anxiety & depression, and if it does not improve , I would consider meds - at least til you get to a better place in your life and health. Sometimes the depression &
    anxiety can get worse , esp under intense stress . Of course , all of these things are personal decisions. I am just speaking from my experience .

    Remember this , that there are sooooooo many other people ( who you probably know and see everyday !) who
    are walking around feeling like you and trying to " act normal " . It is extremely common !
  8. ANNXYZ

    ANNXYZ New Member

    Some doctors advocate taking tyrosine ( amino acid )
    which converts to serotonin .

    You might google " The Way Up From Down" amino acids depression and find the website about treating depression with aminos . I have read MANY articles about the benefits of tyrosine for depression, and GABA for anxiety . I have responded well to SSRI's ( prozac and zoloft ) and have not tried these , but others have
    said they can help .

    Also , fish oil is ESSENTIAL ( or at least essential fatty acids ) for brain function and has been studied
    and found helpful according to Harvard studies .