How to have fun??

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by zoose, Nov 1, 2005.

  1. zoose

    zoose New Member

    Given our limited physical resources how do you guys have fun? My spouse told me I have forgotten how.... Not suprising since I am in pain most of the time. I am just curious what you guys do?

    zoose
  2. jbennett2

    jbennett2 New Member

    Playing with my grandson always makes me laugh. That's the most fun thing for me to do.

    I also really enjoy singing. I sing in the church choir, and also with a small group of Madrigal Singers. Our rehearsals are always held in the evenings, and I pay for it the next day, but it is well worth it.
  3. LEFTYGG

    LEFTYGG Member

    I dont know what to do .when my husband suggests a movie or casino or something i just feel too exhausted to bother.

    when i do get out i enjoy it.we dont drink so bars arent much fun. i want some laughs too. hugs to all GAIL
  4. teacher

    teacher New Member

    so don't know about how hubby would feel about small parties.

    Have a potluck. I do with some people at work. The lady that provides her house, that's her contribution. She cleans, we cook. Very low key and lots of fun. We just talk and laugh.

    Sometimes I have people over to my place. They know how I am and they don't get upset if my apt. doesn't look like Better Homes and Gardens. Same concept. Everyone brings something. No stress, but fun.

    If there is money, go out to dinner. Ya gotta eat. Let someone else cook and clean up. Make it a date. Pick a romantic restaurant. Let him pick you up! :)

    Can't handle late dates or where you want to go is costly? Find out what time they open. You can get a nice cozy table without having to wait and sometimes they have "Early Bird" specials.

    Do you like animals? See if your local zoo has wheel chairs for rent. If hubby doesn't mind pushing, you can ride.

    Do you both like to read? Check with your library or a bookstore to see if they have any reading/dicussion groups.
    Intellectual stimulation. Stop for coffee afterwards.

    Christmas is coming. Get him to drive you around to see the lights.

    Hope you find something to do.

    teacher
  5. zoose

    zoose New Member

    I liked the singing and potluck ideas. We alread eat out a lot since I don't cook as often as I used to. The novelty of eating out has definately worn off. I would love to have some company over since my spouse is often away on business so the potluck is great since I won't have as much cooking to do.

    I always take the family out driving to look at the lights at christmas. My mom used to drive me and my sister around and I have continued that tradition. It is something I enjoy tremendously. I highly recomend it. There is one house in my neighborhood that goes way overboard. It is better than Disney ;-)

    I will have to start playing more board games with my son. Maybe I'll start painting or something. I always used to like playing with playdough when he was in preschool. He is too old for that now so I will have to take up art on my own. That should be interesting.

    Thanks again for all of the ideas.
    zoose
  6. jfrustrated

    jfrustrated New Member

    Fun? what's fun? I can vaguely remember having it before the pain hit a decade ago.

    But seriously, fun for me is when I am out of pain or I can do something that I have not been able to do for a while. e.g., I regard this message board as fun: I have started to investigate the various software things on the new computer I bought earlier this year e.g., photos, games. . I am surprised how happy I can be when I get to the next level of a game. Combing the cat is fun - if she's in the mood. I am learning to make tassles - everyone is receiving tassles for Christmns presents

    But I agree that it is very difficult to have fun when you are in pain. Perhaps you could find a way to put your spouse in the sort of pain you fell and then ask him how to have fun? - just joking.
  7. zoose

    zoose New Member

    Your reply made me laugh. My spouse would be miserable. I can't imagine him in this amount of pain all of the time. A very amusing thought. :)

    combing my cat is definately the antithisis of fun. It is usually a very painful experience for the both of us.

    I do spend a lot of time on the computer. I do enjoy mucking about with it. I am just learning how to use the Mac hubby came home with. I am used to Windows and Linux so this is something new to investigate. I did just get my DSL working. Woo hoo! Now if I could only figure out the firewall and the router I would be all set.

    Take care,
    zoose