This might be long -- sorry! Yesterday I was at the grocery store and saw one of the ladies from the church DH and I used to attend. (That's another story in itself but it basically came down to 'attend church, be involved, when you become disabled, you're forgotten' type of attitude). Anyway, she said something about she never came to the store on Thursdays. I said it was a good day for me to come because the stores aren't as crowded and I don't have to stand in line as long because of the pain. She said she was looking for a coffee pot for their new ladies Sunday School class. (Never invited me to it during the conversation). THIS IS WHAT MY POST IS ABOUT -- THen she says "we had a girl coming who said she had problems getting up the stairs to the classes, so we met downstairs. Then the girl decided that she couldn't attend both Sunday School AND church services so she stopped coming. (This is it) -- So now that SHE'S GONE we can go upstairs and have our own little class and have coffee and donuts." It was all I could do not to say something back!! I did say that it was sad that the girl had to stop coming but I understood why she couldn't attend both SS and church. It was like "she was holding us back from having our own SS class so we can have coffee and donuts." I told my husband about it when I got home and as soon as I said what she told me his jaw dropped and he said 'oh, I bet you said something.' I said, 'no, I felt like it wasn't worth it. She wouldn't have understood or cared anyway' But now I feel like I should have said something more. It bothers me that churches are so blind that they don't see that just because you can't do what you once could do that you're useless. Once after a really bad flare I came back to church and a guy (SS teacher) came up to me and said "Well, I'm glad to see you decided to get out of bed this morning and join us." So what do we say to these people? I've just gotten to the point of feeling it's useless to say anything because I feel they're totally ignorant!!