Humiliated by Doc very discouraged

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Hope4Sofia, Jun 21, 2006.

  1. Hope4Sofia

    Hope4Sofia New Member

    Well, I just had the most humiliating Doctor's appointment ever with an endocrinologist. He was rude and demeaning.

    I brought the list of conditions to rule out which my primary doc told me to bring and this new doc didn't even look at it.

    He said if I was so sick I should just go to the ER! He said if my blood sugar was really between 50 and 60 I would be in a coma! I know he's off on that.

    He didn't even do an exam and he didn't want to run any tests even though my primary had requested it!

    URGH! I'm very frustrated.

    I waited for 5 weeks to get that appointment and he was no help at all. I'm very discouraged. It feels like no one can help me and I don't know how to help myself.

    Sofi
  2. mme_curie68

    mme_curie68 New Member

    I know for a fact that you can be concious and have a blood sugar that low - it happened to me when I was pregnant.

    My lowest sugar that I measured was 47.

    I didn't find out until I was in EMT school that is is possible to go into seizures from insulin shock when your blood sugar is that low.

    What a donkey!

    Time for a referral to a rheumy that gives a crap about his patients.

    It is NOT you. It is NOT you. It is NOT YOU!

    Go back to your primary and ask them to help you find someone who will HELP you.

    Hugs,
    Madame Curie
    [This Message was Edited on 06/21/2006]
  3. nanna4550

    nanna4550 New Member

    I am sorry Sofi, I've had appointments like that too.

    It is very hard to find a doc who is comassionate and who will treat your symptoms. I happened to find a wonderful doctor who told me what vitamins to take, prescribed something to balance my hormones and took the time to look at my symptoms and figure out what would help.

    She is closing her practice in my town and moving 1.5 hours away and I am going to drive to her rather than try even the docs she recommended.

    Keep looking, and try not to get discouraged. I think you need to treat doctors as if you were going to hire them to work for you. I believe your doctor just got his resume tossed into the garbage.
    There must be other applicants
    I think you should call his office and refuse to pay for his lack of service, call your insurance company and tell them about him too. There is no excuse for a doctor to be so rude.

    Just my humble opinion.
    Nanna
  4. suzette1954

    suzette1954 New Member

    and tell your primary dr what you told us. I think he should send you to another for a second opinion or whatever. Dont go back to this one!!

    Suzette
  5. Hope4Sofia

    Hope4Sofia New Member

    I've had my credit dinged before from missing a payment to a doc's office. I know he didn't deserve it but I guess I just don't have the fight in me.

    I'm just tired of this.

    I will be calling my primary doc and letting him know not to refer to this doc anymore.

    Thank you for your empathy. It means a lot.

    Sofi
  6. livin4him

    livin4him New Member

    Usually, I get a little steam and try new doctors only to no avail. Get tired and then, I get a little steam again and find one that helps. You just never know who will be of help to you.

    Sorry you had this experience. Unfortunately, with this dd we have to be our own best advocates.

    Hope you find one that helps you.


  7. BabiCati

    BabiCati New Member

    I have had a fasting blood sugar of 53 and I was awake, coherent and even drove to work. So this man is an idiot. You should sit down sometime this week and send him a letter telling him so.
  8. kirschbaum26

    kirschbaum26 New Member

    Dear Sofi:

    I agree...call your PCP and tell her/him what happened. Maybe she does not know that this is how he/she treats patients that your pcp sends. I also know that you can have low blood sugar levels and not be in a coma. Do you test your blood sugar daily? I do, and mine is all over the place...usually low.

    My PCP sent me to an endocrinologist after I had a very high progesterone reading on one of my blood tests. He thought I either had congenital adrenal hysplasia or Cushings Syndrome.

    The doctor she sent me to was older, and had worked in VA hosptials. He was thorough, and wanted to do a suppression test. He ordered it and asked me if I was still taking prednisone (I had been for 5+ years). I told him no...and then asked if I had a steroid shot in my rheumatologist office 2 weeks before, would that mess up his test? He said I should wait 2 more weeks. Which I did. I did the suppression test and all my levels were abnormally low...he said that was what it was supposed to be. I was still feeling like I did not get the answers that I was looking for. I went back one more time, and while he thought that I might still have an issue, he told me to wait until more "bothersome" symptoms arose. Not really sure what more he would want me to have to go through.

    I actually went back to my PCP and she said she would refer me to another Endocrinologist. She also sent him my blood work that showed a fasting blood sugar (more than once) of 50.

    Good luck, and do not let one doctor's ignorance or poor treatment keep you from getting the answers you deserve.

    Ingrid
  9. cjcookie

    cjcookie New Member

    Mine has gotten that low. I was very sick and sweaty, though and really couldn't move but no coma.

    Maybe you should post the reasons you were going to this doc and someone could help you out more. If you already have, sorry - I can't always get on the site.

    This doctor sounds like a real stinker. That's a nice word for what I was really thinking.
  10. Hope4Sofia

    Hope4Sofia New Member

    It's good to have a safe place to vent. Thank you for your responses.

    After my appointment I just sobbed. I actually suprised myself on how much I cried. I was just soooo disappointed. I had put my hopes into this doc visit and once again wound up empty.

    Thank you for your support and understanding.

    Sofi
  11. thirkmom

    thirkmom New Member

    I think we are all conditioned to believe we have to put up with whatever doo doo the docs dish out and then pay our co-pay and be satisfied. After all, they have been to medical school and are all-knowing and we are the uneducated masses who will blindly follow along.

    Last year I had a Dr. that was the final straw that broke the camel's back. I'm pretty patient and will put up with a lot,I will even make up excuses for the Dr. but this Dr. crossed me for the last time. I called my HMO and asked to speak with their Patient Advocate. I told them some of the things this Dr. had said and done. The Advocate was very understanding and she found a specialist that was in-network,called and had them fit me into their schedule. I'm sure the Dr.'s chart negative things about us that gets passed on with our chart. I asked the Patient Advocate what happens when complaints are made against the Dr.s She said if they get enough complaints they drop them from the net work. She promised me she would place a complaint in this particular Dr.'s folder.

    Maybe if we all decided we have had enough,we could start a protest over how we are being treated. Sorry for the Soap box message. This kind of stuff get's me going and my blood boiling. I don't want to be a victim ever again

    I know we don't feel like standing up for ourselves most days but if we don't who will? We need to all start making a stand. You can bet the Dr.s are covering for themselves. LuAnn
  12. PVLady

    PVLady New Member

    I am so sorry you were treated like this. Please don't take is personally, this doctor has major problems.

    Anyone who would behave like that has something major wrong, and it has nothing to do with you.

    He could be addicted to drugs, in the middle of a divorce, or just a big jerk.

    Whatever it is, it is HIS problem, not you.

    A shame you wasted your time. Yes, report the entire incident to your referring doctor and ask for another doctor.

    Hopefully you will have luck next time. This is not the first time I have read about doctors acting terrible, I had one treat me bad also.

    I currently have a very professional, excellent doctor - so they do exist. Sadly, the other extreme exists also.

    Even though they are supposed to be professionals, I guess they are still human and subject to problems themselves.

    If he is so disgusted being a doctor, maybe he should look for another profession. Why don't you write him a letter...
    [This Message was Edited on 06/21/2006]
  13. Hope4Sofia

    Hope4Sofia New Member

    You're right. I need to tell someone about his behavior.

    I know he's an idiot but I still can't get it out of my head.

    It makes me want to retreat. It temps me to say, "Ok, this is FM - quit looking for anything else. Just take the meds and forget it."

    Hubby says NO. We need to keep looking. So, I'm trying to work up the emotionally energy to face another Dr..

    Thanks for the encouragement.

    Sofi
  14. Hope4Sofia

    Hope4Sofia New Member

    Thanks for the tip! I'll be sure to write it down.

    Sofi
  15. yourtroubl

    yourtroubl New Member

    I had a doctor tell me once that if I did not report the bad behavoir of a doctor then it could be my fault he treats the next patient the same way. Report him to someone.
  16. Empower

    Empower New Member

    Oh My

    How rude


    I can tell you my blood sugar has been in the 40's - I did feel awful, but I wasn't in a coma.

    I was TESTED and it was in the 40's, I wasn't guessing

  17. jake123

    jake123 New Member

    I have had frequent blood sugars at 50 or around that in the am (fasting) some people comment on this, some don't. I know I have to eat pretty quickly in the am and I never skip meals! That's just me.
    I went on a train down the west coast of Mexico and one morning when we were getting back on it, I figured out that we were not going to be eating breakfast and I said but I have to eat something! to my new husband who said we'll just get something at the next stop. Ten minutes later I fainted dead away. A ham sandwich appeared and I was saved.
  18. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    Report this primary doctor and write to BMA. This was uncalled for. I would also write to your insurance carrier as we are meant to report doctors who do no exams or correct procedures.

    A friend now takes a small tape recorder into every doctor visit and says up front, I need to record this as I cannot remember otherwise.

    Could come in handy for us all. I know I have apps. with two snotty docs coming up next week and I intend to take recorder as I was shafted last time and no choice here.

    Love Anne Crom
  19. Hope4Sofia

    Hope4Sofia New Member

    Bumping in regard to the bad dr behavior post.
  20. 1975jet

    1975jet New Member

    That is terrible- how could anyone even be in that position???? I would do something he should be discredited from the medical field.

    Take care of yourself and don't give up..