I don't want to be grey!!!!!

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by jfrustrated, Oct 14, 2005.

  1. jfrustrated

    jfrustrated New Member

    Can anyone out there help me? I have had CFS for over 8 years and had grey hair for over 20 years. In the last few years, I have developed a bad reaction to the chemicals in the colour used to permanently cover my grey hair. I have tried various "gentle" products and get the same reaction. It might seem like vanity, but with so much else in my life out of my control, I DO NOT WANT GREY HAIR - YET. However, it has reached the stage where the reaction to the hair dye is not worth it. Up to a week housebound with vertigo, nausea and the CFS sense of dying. Should I grow grey gracefully??? I have lots of other issues with CFS and this might seem trivial, but sometimes such a little thing can be the straw that breaks the camel's back. All suggestions appreciated.
  2. hehmommy

    hehmommy New Member

    I am only 36 and started going grey at the age of 18. I have never reacted well to the coloring either. I am now use to it and it doesn't bother me as much. I have really dark brown hair (almost black)so the grey really shows up. I guess you just have to try to get over it. I wouldn't want to rixk being sick just because of something cosmetic.

    Trish :)
  3. Gly

    Gly New Member

    I am currently trying to grow grey gracefully myself after covering up my pigment-challenged hairs for many years. I am finding loads of inspiration at the Long Hair Community (an on-line group similar to this one). Yes, I am growing my hair long at the same time. I'm also growing my bangs out. I dream of having long, natural hair (no chemical processing) in a single braid. My hair is dark brown with about 10-15% silver highlights.

    Your issue is not trivial at all. How we look affects how we feel, especially those of us who are very visually orientated. The trick for me has been to look at grey in a different light - as a thing of beauty. Silver, not grey. Have you seen any pictures of Emmylou Harris lately?
  4. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    If so and if there is a knowledgeable person working there, you might ask about color for sensitive people. If you know a stylist or color specialist, you could ask too.

    I have known several women who decided that coloring one's hair is just too much and it was a great relief to not have to worry about coloring their hair. They compensated by making their makeup a little brighter and they looked fabulous.

    I keep my mousy brown/gray hair colored golden blonde. That way, the gray blends in better and gives it an ashy blonde look. It takes a lot less coloring to maintain than if I were to try to go dark.

    I don't always look my best when I'm lazing around home, but I think it's important to us to be able to gussy up now and then. It's good for the spirit.

    Love, Mikie
  5. rileyearl

    rileyearl New Member

    Gray

    I have a friend
    who is turning gray,
    not just her hair,
    and I do not know
    why this is so.

    Is it a lack of vitamin E
    pantothenic acid, or B-12?
    Or is it from being frantic
    and alone?

    'How long does it take you to love someone?'
    I ask her.
    'A hot second,' she replies.
    'And how long do you love them?'
    'Oh, anywhere up to several months.'
    'And how long does it take you
    to get over loving them?'
    'Three weeks,' she said, 'tops.'

    Did I mention I am also
    turning gray?
    It is because I *adore* this woman
    who thinks of love
    in this way.

    -by Alice Walker

  6. ellie5320

    ellie5320 New Member

    hi Jf I have been a hairdresser in oz 40 yrs and as far as I know there is nothing here to cover greys succefully except permanent tints I do think you are wise not using colours as I feel this is where I got fibro from as for henna if you have perms or any other chemical work DO NOT use henna
  7. sleepyinlalaland

    sleepyinlalaland New Member

    But I don't WANNA be gray! I had always been a brunette and really identified with it. I also look younger than my near 60 years (except TIRED), and the prospect of sporting the gray badge was too depressing.

    Since the first few strands 20 years ago, I've covered it often enough to not really know just how gray it had become. When I cut my hair really short (and LIKED IT!), it finally became too much to keep those roots coverd up; with the super-short hair the roots were very visible from every angle. I had a few years of false starts...tried to let it grow out, then chickened out.

    Finally, after letting more than an inch of gray show, I bit the bullet and had it clipped VERY close...so it was all gone in one swoop. I had a very skillful haircutter, she gave me a very soft (and kinda "edgy") cut and to my surprise it looked good on me. I have just enough dark to accentuate the silver and the lines of the haircut are rather CHIC (so I am told. I actually get a lot more compliments than before).

    Personally, I could never wear MY hair long AND gray...it's way too curly. But I had given up on the long-hair fantasy long ago also. Also, I ended up changing my color scheme. I newly love pinks, pastels, (and as always black and white), and also prefer silver earrings to gold.

    I call gray "the new blonde"!
  8. jfrustrated

    jfrustrated New Member

    Thanks a lot for the various ideas. I think I shall try to bite and bullet and become a trendy grey: maybe it will give me a new life as well as a new look.
  9. happycanuk

    happycanuk New Member

    I had my hair dyed for 10 years or more and really felt wishy washy in the blond color they want to put over the grey. Last year, I let it grow out, as my hairdresser thought I might feel better with the salt and pepper look. I have NEVER looked back. I have a short cut, it is easy to look after and I don't even think about it being grey. I, too, was a brunette with lots of red in my hair. I really do like all the "color" I have in my face now.