I have the most loving giving 91 yo mother we all live on 6 acres 3 houses. my son has apt in her basement he will buy her house when she passes. I take her dinner everyday at 4 or 5 fix her meds and stay till 6 or 7.she has lived here 40 yrs.she never wants me to leave she has a couple visitors everyday but she wants me.she says shes afraid she also has lifeline necklace I have so much going on it seems with my grown kids that i actually like being alone. my husbands gone a lot working and coaching football. mom has magular degeneration she got the 3000 dollar machine but hasnt used it once so i feel sad but i cant live there she keeps temp at 80 i keep fan on me the whole time.i keep weird hrs sleep late. now if she was unable to care for herself i would. oh well id like to see how others deal with this.