I give up

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Imnoangle, Nov 4, 2002.

  1. Imnoangle

    Imnoangle New Member

    Well i went to another doctor who did an EMG and says those results are fine. I mentioned fibro and was ignored again. I'm just gonna sit here and pop pain pills for the rest of my life. Why are all doctors just ignorant. This was a doctor that is suppose to know about fibro. Also my in-laws think I'm just joking and I'm crabby for no reason. I've tried to explain it to them, so has my husband but they think I'm just being witchy. Sorry to take this out on all of you, but this is the only place I really get any support. I hope everyone is well, and thanks for listing to me crab again.
    Dawn
  2. Imnoangle

    Imnoangle New Member

    Well i went to another doctor who did an EMG and says those results are fine. I mentioned fibro and was ignored again. I'm just gonna sit here and pop pain pills for the rest of my life. Why are all doctors just ignorant. This was a doctor that is suppose to know about fibro. Also my in-laws think I'm just joking and I'm crabby for no reason. I've tried to explain it to them, so has my husband but they think I'm just being witchy. Sorry to take this out on all of you, but this is the only place I really get any support. I hope everyone is well, and thanks for listing to me crab again.
    Dawn
  3. tes

    tes New Member

    I am 31 years old with 2 young children 2 and 4 years old. I feel the exact same way that you do. I have had fibro for about 9 years now and am at the point of giving up. Doctors are truely ignorant. Love to place this illness on one of them and then we'll see what they have to say. I am presently a stay at home mom as well. I try and do my best in raising my children, but sometimes I don't think I can take another day. My worst fm symtoms are chest and severe lower rib and abnominal pain. I also suffer slightly from cfs. My pain is pretty much constant with some days feeling alittle less pain. Sorry for my babbling, but sometimes you just need to talk it out and take in all the support you can. Do you have fm or cfs? What symptoms do you struggle with. Thanks for listening and I'll be here if you need someone to lean on. Oh, and the in-law thing, I'm right there with ya. Mine don't get it either. I'm european(greek) and god forbid if any of my in-laws family sees me at my worst.(europeans love to gossip).

    Gentle hugs,
    Tes

    P.S. I'm from Toronto, Canada.
  4. sb439

    sb439 New Member

    ... once you've gathered some psychological strength again, you should consider looking for and seeing a specialist for FM/CFS? I.e. not just someone who knows about FM among other things, but someone who sees FM/CFS patients every day. Maybe someone else on the board can recommend someone in your area? Even if you go just once. For me this has made all the difference.
    hugs,
    Susanne
  5. dd

    dd New Member

    We have all had/have days like those. I know how frustrating doctors can be. I went to at least 20 before I was properly diagnosed. I was ready to throw the towel in a few times myself. Don't give up though, move on to another doctor. The good ones are hard to find but once you find them it will be well worth the search and frustration.

    As for the family situation, that can be frustrating as well. Some will come around and believe you after a while and some will refuse to believe that there is anything wrong with you ever. The best thing that you can do is try to educate them about FM/CFS. When I was first diagnosed with CFS my mother-in-law kept saying "oh yeah, I must have that too because I get tired too." I was constantly trying to explain to her that being tired was just one of my symptoms not the ONLY one. She is now finally realizing that I am sick with an illness not just tired all the time. I think it is hard for family to believe that there is something wrong with a loved one when they can't SEE the illness and they have a hard time accepting it because they want us to be well. My sister once told me I would get better if I just tried to. That made me really upset because she knew how many doctors I had seen to find answers for what was wrong with me. I just come to the conclusion that if doctors don't know that much about our illness we can't expect family to know that much either. But, I do try to educate them as much as possible. I print out articles from the internet and give to them. I don't know if they actualluy read them or not but it makes me feel good to give it to them.

    Take Care,

    Debbie
  6. kats1978

    kats1978 New Member

    some docs are asses, but others are not
  7. AnnetteP

    AnnetteP New Member

    I learned a long time ago that I need to be my own advocate, no matter the cost...and I'm not talking money here. I went against friends and family who thought I was crazy. But, I perservered, reading everything I could get my hands on, then found a dr. who not only gave me a diagnosis, that my family couldn't scoff at, but who changed my life for the better. While I may not have FM, I do/did have a lot of other things that are common to FMers and others with chronic conditions.

    Knowledge is power, so be sure to utitlize all the information/tools this website provides us with. Like I mentioned in another post, if you haven't checked out the "home" and "library" tabs at the top of the page, please do so. Don't wait for others to accept you...find out what you can do to help yourself, even if the doubting Thomases don't believe you're sick!

    Good luck, and I know you can do it,
    Annette
  8. GoDaleJr

    GoDaleJr New Member

    I've seen several and they are all different, except for the fact that none of them listen to what I am saying. I've seen two Rheumatologists and there are only 5 out in my area. One kept putting me back to work and told me I have things that I don't have. Then she wanted to put me on anti-depressants when I wasn't depressed. in other words she didn't believe a word I was saying.
    The second Rheumie, who supposedly knows all about Fibro told me to exercise the fibro out of me. Push yourself, sweat, lift weights, do cardio!!! He was whacked.
    I now have two more appointments with two more Rhuemies next month. I figure with 4 doctors, someone will listen, right??
    After that I lose my medical insurance, so the hell with all of them! Just stock me up with meds and I'll be better off on my own.
    Good luck to ya!
    ~Gina
  9. karen2002

    karen2002 New Member

    Dawn, I know how you are feeling. Take some time to unwind, letting go of all that stress. It really makes you feel much worse. I kept running into those doctors who had the same attitude you mentioned. It does get exhausting and frustrating. I went in debt, over $22,000. from May thru August of this year, trying to get well again. I became so discouraged, I quit. After a short time though, I got angry. I decided, I was going to find a doctor come hell or high water. I didn't care what it cost, I would pay the rest of my life if I had to. I did realize that due to this DD, my search would have to be altered. With so many dead ends before, I had exhausted myself, and elevated my stress level. I began interviewing the receptionists prior to even making an appointment. Dawn there is no reason to even go to a physician, specialist, or otherwise, that doesn't have alot of FMS/CFS patients.
    Thank goodness I finally found a great one. It is a long drive, there and back, but definitely worth it.
    Karen
    Also, don't let your inlaws bother you---ignore their insensitivity, so that you don't add to your stress.