i look sick now :(

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by kat0465, Dec 31, 2008.

  1. kat0465

    kat0465 New Member

    i know we have talked about how people dont believe were that sick cause we look so good. But after being so sick for almost 20 years now, it has caught up with me!! i mean i am really looking sick now!! i saw a pic from a couple years ago, still looked pretty good for my age, but now, it's like looking at a different person.
    has anyone noticed this?? or am i just being sad & vain tonite,lol. Happy New Year everybody,Lets cross our fiongers for a breakthrough in 09!!!!
  2. msbsgblue

    msbsgblue Member

    I could have written your post to a T. I am exactly the same way and I will have this 21 years this coming spring.

    I will be 62 in Jan. and I looked in my 40's until this past year or two. Seriously, I don't even have greying hair and no I don't color it.

    I look pale, washed out and just sick.
  3. 7xgrammy

    7xgrammy New Member

    People used to tell me I didn't look old enough to be a grandmother. They certainly don't tell me that any more. I have aged 20 years in the last 5 years.

    7xgrammy
  4. greatgran

    greatgran Member

    Yep, I could have written the post, sounds so much like me. Even my hair is different not for the good either. I feel I look like I have aged more in the past 3 years than in 60.. I don't feel like fixing myself up like I one did but even when I do I still look Sick. I mentioned this to my doc that I just didn't look like me anymore, she said well, we are all getting older, I am 66. Where did the time go?

    I do hope this year brings some improvement to each of you.

    God Bless,
    gg
  5. tut90

    tut90 Member

    I was diagnosed with FM about five months ago, I'm 61 and I already could see the difference on my face and my arms, from what this dd has done to me.

    Hoping this year brings a breakthrough.

    Wishing everyone a Happy New Year!
  6. FMsaddenedspirit

    FMsaddenedspirit New Member

    Yep me To ...

    My honey and I where just looking at pictures yesterday . .. we got a camera for Christmas this year.. .. I really look bad.. great dark circules around my eyes that never go away . they even feel like someone hit me, so tender.
    I can see through the years how sick I have been . I used to be Hot looking LOL . and had a great body .. so very much in shape ..

    now I'm over weight and can't get rid of get it of no mater how hard I try . put on 10-15 Lbs from the lyricia

    I also feel and think I look about 20-25 yrs older than I really am .. ..

    My husband is so sweet. he says I look the same.. . lyer . LOL .. he just loves me is all.

    I to no longer get dressed up every day like I used to . and do my hair. now I just pull it back and we are done. I live in sweat pants , as my jeans hurt me , my legs arms are very tender to touch .

    but what can we do .... smile and keep going .. look for the things that make us happy and let the rest go.

    prayers that we all get the help we need this new year . Prayers for less pain and more smiles, the sound of laughter .

  7. TeaBisqit

    TeaBisqit Member

    I won't let anyone see recent pics of me. I look awful compared to how I used to look. Before I got sick, I looked good. To see me now........Overweight, pale, and starting to really look alot older at 39, I think I look more into my late forties. No man ever looks at me twice now :( I look like someone's aging mom.
  8. Janalynn

    Janalynn New Member

    Funny you should mention this.
    I've always thought I took pretty darn good care of myself - up on the latest styles, took time to do my hair, make up etc. I still work outside the home so I still need to "do" it up each day. (pain in the #@* by the way)...anyway, what I've noticed is without the 'bounce' in my step, so to speak, I look totally different. For one thing I look totally different when I don't smile.
    I have one of those faces that when I don't smile, I look mad. NOT GOOD.

    I've also had people tell me at work, that they can see something in my eyes.........like I don't feel well.......I'm in pain....even on the days when I think I'm doing pretty well.

    I make an effort to smile - it makes a huge difference in how I look. I will always care how I look ( I hope) Unfortunately there are some things that we can't control - my skin has changed, my hair etc.

    You're certainly not alone! I do bet that if we got together though that we'd all think each other was beautiful. =)
  9. misskoji

    misskoji Member

    I can sooooooooo relate! I was honestly just crying about this very subject last night. I am 33, and over the past few years have aged about 15 years. People think I am mother to my 26 y.o. sister. I don't recognize myself. My eyes are dark and rung, jawels (sp?) came out of nowhere. I could go on and on.

    I don't allow pictures of myself. Like someone else mentioned, I used to be a looker too. Now, you would never know. This disease robs us of so much.
    [This Message was Edited on 01/01/2009]
  10. kat0465

    kat0465 New Member

    i hate to hear im not alone!!! :( you know i was watching a you tube video they had a specialist on fibro saying we seem to age about 20 years too fast, ( Yippee)
    i too used to be easy on the eyes,lol. But sadly no more. i will be 44 this spring, and am looking closer to my 50's i think :( the muscle tone is gone! cellulite out the wazoo!! Never had it before EVER, like you all said the dark circles, just unwell look.
    It's so hard just to put makeup on & fix the hair anymore so i guess that dosent help.
    Well sisters, Good thing were all Beautiful on the INSIDE :) Maybe that will shine through!! sure hope so, i cant afford a spa day,lol.!!!
  11. gb66

    gb66 Well-Known Member


    Each time I read a post about people saying "but you don't look sick" , I have to think back a long time to remember the last time anyone said that to me! I used to always look much younger than my age and I loved it. Now, I look much older than my DH and we're the same age. I do think that the fact that I seldom smile and am always in pain is one of the reasons. I also don't use makeup anymore and seldom get dressed. I live in gowns and slippers. Wish I had a solution for this but I'm still waiting for a cure after 30 years. GB66
  12. FMsaddenedspirit

    FMsaddenedspirit New Member

    , Reminds me . last time I put on make up .. came out and my husband , said oooo honey .. that makes your dark circles look wose.. makes your eyes look darker .. . so ya I never use make up any more ether ..

    I know we are all still beautiful , we just see the sick person , but inside ..

    Ladies really the beauty is inside .. shinning through

    I miss the way my eyes use to shine.... the eyes where always my best ,
  13. lukelinnmark

    lukelinnmark New Member

    I was just dx with cfs/fm 10/02/2008,I think I've had it much longer and its really got me down now.This only runs in a small percentage of men and I half to be 1 of them and I'm only 38yrs. old,but feel like I'm 80 most of the time I hurt so bad.I no what you mean about looking like a different person,I feel that way everyday of my life.It sucks.take care and god bless.Mark
  14. ironspine

    ironspine New Member

    I thought it was just me...I too always took pride in how I looked, dressed up to go to work, hair and makeup perfect, accessorized yadayada. I'm 48 and I told my hubby I think I look 10 years older. I've been on Lyrica over a year and I think it's done something to me. I have puffiness in my face, dark spots around my eyes, wrinkles that weren't there before..and I look so tired. I cut my hair short and spiky so I don't have to mess with it anymore.
    When you are sick other things are put in proper perspective. What used to be important is no longer relevant-God, family and friends, health are number one. I've tried to start giving of myself so much more to others, even if it's just kind words. I don't want to be self pitying EVER.
    We are all sisters and brothers in this illness-when we feel bad about ourselves remember this site to uplift each other.
    Love,
    D.