Hi everyone! This is Sherrieb. I need to ask you a favor. I talked with my mom tonight and ended up crying and making her feel like a dog. She asked me why I didn't see her often or call her. I live behind her and we do see each other about once a week. We used to see each other almost everyday before I got sick. I told her that she makes me feel like she doesn't like who I have become and she acts like I am a failure as a parent. She got a little defensive and I backed off. She said that she doesn't think of me as a failure, she just thinks I don't try to get better as hard as I could. She doesn't realize that just her saying that alienates me. She also said she couldn't stand the way I slept during the day and stayed up at night. She said that just doesn't make sense. I told her that I couldn't explain it, but I just do better doing it that way. It has gotten worse, I admit that. I do go to bed later than ever and sleep later than ever. I guess I have adjusted myself to that. I have always been a night person though. Before I got sick I went to bed at about 12 am or 1 and would get up as needed for work. After I got sick I started going to bed and lying there for hours trying to sleep. I would finally fall asleep and once asleep I would sleep for hours into the day. Usually about 2 pm. I finally started going to bed later and would fall asleep easier. I find that I sleep much better when my husband gets up. I sleep great during the day except for the pesky phone ringing. I don't take any sleep aids. I have tried zanaflex and flexril but they didn't help. I recently tried zanaflex again and it did make me sleepy and high. I might try it at bedtime again to see if it works. My help from you guys is could you help me explain to my mother and family why some people just sleep during the day. I told her tonight that a lot of people who have fibro and lupus that I have talked to do the same thing I do. She said, "Don't you think maybe the way you sleep during the day might have made you sick?" I find this preposterous, but didn't tell her that. I just said no. I don't think for a minute that my sleeping late made me sick. I was not sleeping THAT late when I got sick. I was leading a normal life that kept me up during the day. The problem is that I did like to sleep late on my days off 11 am or 12 pm) and she hated that too. When I was sleeping until 10 am as a teen that got on her nerves too. Could you tell your stories about sleeping during day and staying up at night? Please just tell why you do it and what you think your reason is. My reasons are that I am sleeping alone during the day and that it takes me awhile to go to sleep. I also like being up at night. I have more energy. When I get up early, even if I have had 8 hours of sleep, I feel like I have flu symptoms. I feel absolutely terrible after about two hours of being up. Mom said this is because I have ruined my bodyclock. Thank you all for any help you give. Please just help me explain this to people why we do what we do.